Unpackedful Parenting

I need some help and advice. Daughter is 9yo Claiming she is therian and not Human-“she is a fox” And solely believes a spirit/mother nature told her that she is a therian

She wants to wear a mask, the tail, the paws, is jumping around the house doing “quads”, watching the videos the whole 9.

I am 100% completely against this and her father (my ex husband) is egging it on saying she is using her “imagination” and offering to make a mask with her when u explicitly said no. Said “it’s just a phase”, but a phase can turn into something serious and I am NOT ok with this.

A counselor friend of mine told me to contact her school counselor but I’m not trying to embarrass her further . But it has gotten to the point where she screamed in my face that she is not a normal human and that she is a therian which her dad says “that’s between you two” And then lied to her dad today saying oh I only said that because I was mad at her …

What do I do?.. I feel so lost, I have no backup parental support on this, anything I say no to, he does the complete opposite and I just am fed up.

This is my third but I don’t remember what braxton hick feel like.

I’ve been feeling like a painful pull around my waist when my stomach gets really tight. But is that normal??? I just can’t remember. Can I get some insight please I don’t talk about it to my husband or his family ( my family is on another state) because I don’t want to hear this is your third you know what to do. When in fact I don’t. It’s different, the first 2 where worlds apart from each other. And I get nervous because I spoke with my doctor and she told me to play it safe for now and not take Tylenol because of the seriousness of the suits and the cases that have been found.

So I gentle parent my toddler, and I also have step daughters ages 5 and 7.

Well yesterday the 7 year old purposefully tripped my toddler to not allow her into her bedroom (we have baby gates that older kids can open but she left it open) and the consequence was no playing with the other kids (because she hurt them)

And the thing I need help with:

Today that same 7 year old decided to purposely pee in my couch and then try to hide it, begged her 5 year old sister to not tell on her and even stayed in her wet clothes til we found out.

Her reasoning she told us: she didn’t want to walk to the bathroom.

I’m so upset and I have zero clue as to what if any the correlated consequence would be for something like intentionally peeing on furniture!

At her age too! It seems to vindictive and spiteful and cruel to me to try to destroy our furniture.

Background: the step daughters are going home to their mother in Florida Saturday, we live in Utah, and her mother spanks her and we do not. My only idea for why she really did this is she is either jealous of my toddler and her new baby siblings (her mom just gave birth a month ago and in about to in September) or she is upset that she got in trouble yesterday for hurting my toddler and is resentful and trying to get back at us somehow.

Any ideas? I don’t want to spank her but it seems like her mom does it so much than all other consequences don’t matter to this kid and she does worse the next day! I am losing my patience with her and can’t handle more of this behavior.

My little girl turned four a few months ago, she has been the most stubborn child on the planet when it comes to potty training, I have tried everything you could possibly think of and she has no desire what so ever. She hides when she poops, she will never tell me she has to go potty until she already has. I’m getting concerned because anything she has looser stools it’s like all rubbed up into her vagina and her vagina looks red and irritated and I am terrified she’s going to get an infection. I don’t know what to do. I am at a loss for trying to encourage her to use the potty. I have an older child who was a little trouble for a few months but nothing like this. Please send me some advice, because I don’t know how to help her.

Helloooo! I'm 22 weeks and have been really struggling with this. At around 10 weeks I started feeling put off by my toothpaste. I pushed through until not long after that, I started throwing up everytime I would brush my teeth. I used arm and hammer and thought maybe it was too strong for my stomach or my senses right now so I tried to switch a couple times. I tried sensodyne, had the same reaction, and tried a bubblegum toothpaste for kids and still the same. I've started not brushing my teeth as often as I should. I used to twice a day almost everyday and now sometimes I'll go a day or two because I just don't want to deal with it. It throws my whole morning off if I throw up, I get a rash and I can't eat anything after that. I also want to include that I've tried different approaches. I've tried brushing on an empty stomach, after only water, a little bit after a meal. None of that seems to have an impact. I hate not brushing my teeth and I know it's more important during pregnancy as well but I don't know what to do here. If anyone has experience or suggestions it would be highly appreciated. Thanks in advance!