Step Mamas 🇺🇸

I’m so sick of SS treating his little brother like the biggest pain in the ass.

In the 8 months that 17 month old has been walking, he has never ever broken or destroyed anything of stepson’s, and even before he started walking he’s never ruined anything. Yet SS acts like anything 17 m/o breathes on is gonna shatter. The funny part is SS has broken numerous toys of his little brother’s and has even ruined some of his board books.

Every weekend for the last 4 months I’ve had to give him lectures on how that is your baby brother and you need to be nice and learn how to share because 17 m/o doesn’t freak out or try to rip stuff out of his hands. Yet we’ve made absolutely no progress.

It’s frustrating and I’m at my mf wit’s end.

My SD is 16 and just doesn't care or listen at all about anything. My husband has full custody and I have been in her life for 10 years and I do try to stay out of disciplining for the most part but my husband works so much I feel like I'm left with not much choice.

SD just lies about anything and everything we've tried taking her phone away, grounding, ignoring it, talking about it i don't even know what to do. She has lost a lot of friends over the years and has been involved in some pretty intense drama at school because of it. When we ask her why she does it she just says she doesn't know how not to lie.

She just started medication for adhd but she refuses therapy. I also have a 2.5 year old and currently pregnant so I think im just loosing my patience

Just curious if anyone else is dealing with something similar and maybe any tips on how not to go crazy

I am a bio mom and a stepmom to a 3 and 7 year old girl. I have been in SD life since she was 1 and a half. I did not have my biological child until she was around 4. We get SD every weekend unless she has something that requires her to be gone. As the girls have been developing into their own person I am starting to notice that every weekend is starting to turn into a fight over who gets dads attention. The constant back and forth one up. I am emotionally intelligent enough to know that my SD is like this because this is 1. The only time she gets with her dad 2. She probably yearns for his presence and knows her sister gets him full time. Lately my husband and I have hit a rut in our relationship. Clearly with kids quality time is limited. We both work full time so our quality time is the weekends. By time the girls are in for the night and we get alone time, I am tired as well (on top of the fact I have been dealing with health issues) and I have been too tired to stay up. I know this is affecting my husband. I am having a hard time finding balance. Has anyone ever gone through this?

Jeez, I had awkward experience with my SD last night before bed. We just got back from a mini roadtrip and my husband wasn’t too happy with her attitude from that trip. He told her to get settled for bed but she was still having an attitude and more after he told her to put her phone up. She then said ‘none of this would be this way if you and my mom got along’ and he was kinda shocked and asked her to elaborate on what she meant and she’s like ‘we wouldn’t have this townhome or my sisters’ i just kinda sat frozen. i’ve been in her life for 8 years now, i’ve always given her respect and love so it was kinda a slap in my face and to her sisters. We know how her mom is so I know it’s coming more from stuff her mom has said than maybe how she actually feels but it still cut deep. she said her mom tells her a bunch of stuff, which obviously isn’t going to be the truth and more exaggerated. but i will say the past few weeks i have noticed my SD acting a different way towards me when her dad isn’t home. I’ve caught her making like bad faces at me, which i never like say anything to her about it but dang this is hard. My husband got pretty upset after she said it not once but twice last night and had a long talk with her and she eventually apologized. Anyone else have that happen? 😭

My SD(6) lives a completely different life than us. Her mom is weird, entitled, and I am not over exaggerating this…has a mental disorder. As my SD had got older I am starting to see her obtain some of there toxicity and habits. I am starting to not like how she is speaking to my bio daughter with her dad (2) . I don’t want her negative tendencies rubbing off on my daughter when she is the complete opposite of her. My daughter is always happy and I don’t want that rubbing off on her. We try our best to make SD as happy as possible when she is with us, but I know that her other household has more of an effect on her. Its tough.