How to discipline a teenager

My SD is 16 and just doesn't care or listen at all about anything. My husband has full custody and I have been in her life for 10 years and I do try to stay out of disciplining for the most part but my husband works so much I feel like I'm left with not much choice.

SD just lies about anything and everything we've tried taking her phone away, grounding, ignoring it, talking about it i don't even know what to do. She has lost a lot of friends over the years and has been involved in some pretty intense drama at school because of it. When we ask her why she does it she just says she doesn't know how not to lie.

She just started medication for adhd but she refuses therapy. I also have a 2.5 year old and currently pregnant so I think im just loosing my patience

Just curious if anyone else is dealing with something similar and maybe any tips on how not to go crazy

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OMG… Truly here for any of the responses… My stepdaughter is also 15 and I have a seven month old who I currently don’t want taking on her habits… I feel so bad for my husband. We have 50-50 custody one week on one week off. Just a constant battle of behavioral issues. He has also done all the extremes of taking phone 💕 away, taking privileges away. Everything is completely flipped upside down as soon as she goes to her mother’s house. And nothing works she just continues to lie continues to disobey and not care about any of the disciplinary actions. My husband has tried my advice. All of his own advice is for himself and nothing has worked.I’m also to the point where I’m fed up and I am not looking forward to our son getting older and having that influence. As I’m sure you’re experiencing with your child being of an age that they can understand.

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