Is co-sleeping safe?

My baby won’t sleep in the crib at night. Within the first 5 minutes of being put down she will cry and i can’t do the sleep deprivation anymore.. as soon as she is in the bed next to me she settles! 😭is it safe for her to be in the bed with me? i’ve heard of safe sleep 7 and i know co sleeping is normalised in certain areas of the world so surely it can’t be that dangerous? idk help pls

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It’s safe and fine if you do it safely! Check out the lullaby trust and also happycosleeper & cosleepy on Instagram for great advice! Cosleepy has a free bed sharing guide :)

Absolutely safe if you do it right. I second cosleepy on Instagram, she has such useful content! I’ve coslept with both of my kids since they were infants and it was a lifesaver as neither of them would sleep anywhere but on my body.

We’re still co sleeping now at 18 months. Saved my sanity & has been the most phenomenal bonding experience!

I've been co sleeping with my 6 month old for months. The Lullaby Trust resources definitely helped us at the start. It's second nature now and has saved so many sleepless nights x

it’s actually the biological norm. we help regulate babies breathing and temperature. unicef actually have a good infographic that suggests the % of deaths co sleeping are less than crib sleeping when done 100% correctly! it says the deaths are 50/50 but around 90% of co sleeping deaths would be prevented with correct practices! x

If neither of you are heavy sleepers, then it can be done. My husband is a heavy sleeper, so he slept in the spare bedroom for the first few months. It was just me and the baby in the bed. It worked for us, especially since I was breastfeeding. It honestly saved my life! However, he is 5 and still hasn't left our bed🙃

Co sleeping literally saved my sanity o would never recommend anything more. I just loooove cuddling my baby and bonus points for waking up to a big goofy grin every morning

I co sleep. I have a 3 year old and now a 9 month old. I’ve co slept since the day they come home from the hospital. I tried the bassinet the first week and they both hated it. I breast feed and it’s so much easier for us. my 3 year old is sleeping with us some nights and my hubby is in the living room most night because there is not room lol but if you can feel them and know that if they cry you’ll wake I think it’s ok. I also have a baby camera if I leave the room.

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