Coming to a realization

At the age of 33, I realize I may never truly get my happy ending or experience the love I deserve in this life. To summarize… my childhood was a mess, I have no real relationship with my family, no friends to call and laugh/vent with, my spouse is emotionally unavailable most days and is starting to feel more like a “cousin” than a relationship since he is my Childs father. My life is the endless routine of waking up, working from home, doing schoolwork and going to bed. My 4 year old is the best thing that has ever happened to me and is the only highlight in each day. He makes mommy feel seen, loved, and appreciated. I think I will find my happiness in making him happy.

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I am so sorry to hear all of this. It is so tough and lonely.

This post resonated with me, always felt like this. I am 32, no family or friends only “family” I have is my exes parents (my kids grandparents). All I do is wake up to work and go through my daily routine. It can be mentally exhausting.

You deserve your happy ending in this life and all the good things that come with ❤️

So many ways to find happiness outside of romantic relationships. I think we’ve been sold the idea of this “happy ending” and “true love” to aim for but there is sooooo much more to life. Find happiness and contentment in the small things in life 🩷

My family was a mess, I was so worried about marrying my dad that I married my mum and it was brutal. Life after a bad relationship is full, and satisfying, I've done a lot of work on my self and recovery of why I made those decisions, / family dynamics and I have now created the life I deserve. I'm 8 years separated, 9 years divorced, and I've just passed 3 years with my new partner, who is available, loving and a real partner, we've had a baby and he wakes up for every feed too. We are a team and we are calm, kind and happy.

All this to say, I get you, I see you, I get it but different is possible. And please don't put the responsibility of your happiness on your child, it's a burden that will break them and parentify them.

I mean this with kindness not judgement. Live your life happily, that's all she needs and you x

Im sorry you are feeling like this. Its great how much your kid provides to you, but having someone depend on you to be happy its a heavy weight, kids are supposed to go out in the world and build their own life and family.
That being said, 33 is still young, in only one year your life can turn upside down, anything is possible. There is people that start from 0 at this age, there is people that start over at all ages. Talk to you husband about how you feel. You may also be going through some burnout or some depression?

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is this normal?

does anyone else’s baby do this or know why they do this?
he does this when he’s excited, upset, wants something… all the time, for almost everything tbh. I didn’t get a normal one on recording but he does this with his hands but wayyy more aggressively and sorts of tenses up his body, I might just be overthinking it but it’s worrying me lol

Would you leave your 3 year old downstairs watching TV/playing to go and have a really quick shower?

Me and my husband had a disagreement about this. Doors were locked, kitchen door was closed. Stairgate was closed so he wouldn't be on the stairs on his own.

?4 month regression

I need to know I’m not the only one going through this 😂
My boy is 14 weeks old and I’ve had it EASY. The last few weeks we’ve been in the routine of bed & bottle by 9/9.30 and he was waking at around 4/5am for a feed then back to sleep until 9am ish. This last week has been a nightmare, he’s not been napping unless they’re contact naps, usually I could pop him in his Moses or his swing and he’d fall asleep, or it’d start as a contact nap then I could transfer him. ATM as soon as I transfer him he’s waking up and screaming. He’s crying whenever I put him down (he just wants to be stuck to me) even on his play mat he’s only last about 5 mins on it before he’s crying and wants to be held.
On a night, he’s crying when I lay him flat in my arms to get him off to sleep for about 5 mins before he’s settled & falling to sleep. Before I could just put him in his cot awake and he’d fall asleep. Then he’s waking up at around 2/3am and crying solely because he wants to be in bed with me - he’s not hungry and his nappy isn’t dirty. I try to put him back in his cot asleep and he’s having none of it so the last few nights we’ve literally had to co-sleep from around 3am otherwise he just won’t sleep!
Does this sound like the 4 month regression? If so, how long does it last? Will it ever go back to how it was before? And what can I do to help him?! I don’t want to get into the habit of co-sleeping for that long in the night. Usually he ended up in bed with me from around 7am until 9am so I could get a few hours and I was ok with that but 3am-9am is a long time and I get so worried about him being in bed with me that I’m gonna squash or suffocate him

5 months old

Has anyone experienced their baby waking up multiple times absolutely sobbing? My LG is 5 months old. I’ve noticed she’s pulling her ear, chomping on everything and anyone 😂. Is this teething? Her cheeks are also RED. She’s also refusing naps during the day, in total she does about an hour during the day!

No sleep club

Is anyone else still in the rubbish sleep club?
My baby is 8 weeks old, breastfeeding, and still waking every 1-2hrs at night.
Feeling very crap and lonely being awake all the time! Anyone else?

Sleeping bag recs!

My almost 9 week old baby is about to hit 4kg meaning that she can finally use a sleeping bag at night!! Any brand recommendations? And what tog?

We've been using a folded cellular blanket if the room temp is 19-20, and two folded cellular blankets if the room temp is 17-18.