Would you leave your 3 year old downstairs watching TV/playing to go and have a really quick shower?

Me and my husband had a disagreement about this. Doors were locked, kitchen door was closed. Stairgate was closed so he wouldn't be on the stairs on his own.

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Rant #2

Does anyone else’s partner struggle with sexual resentment?
I’m almost 9 months postpartum, I had a 2nd degree tear and my scar is still thin and very sensitive. I’m exclusively breastfeeding so because of my hormones I have absolutely no desire for sex and my scar being sore sometimes just makes my desire less.
Despite this I still try to have sex with my husband once a week even though we spend no quality time together. If we skip a week or if he goes a little too long without sex he gets resentful and grumpy and makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.
He said he’s trying to understand but he has “needs”.

Feeling obligated to have sex makes me want it even less. Now I feel like I’m stuck between just do it and deal with it because I’ll eventually go back to normal and if I force myself it’s going to build resentment on my side and my desire for my husband will go away all together. What do I do? What do you guys do when this happens? I know this is common and normal after a baby

is this normal?

does anyone else’s baby do this or know why they do this?
he does this when he’s excited, upset, wants something… all the time, for almost everything tbh. I didn’t get a normal one on recording but he does this with his hands but wayyy more aggressively and sorts of tenses up his body, I might just be overthinking it but it’s worrying me lol

What would you do?

My lo is 16 months old. We are going on a short family trip to a zoo that is a 1.5 hr drive there. The rest of the family plans to be there all day, 9am-4pm then go out to dinner nearby. My LO still only nurses to sleep during the day and has rarely slept outside of the home. I want to join my family for the day but don't know if I want to deal with the potential overtired meltdowns that will be guaranteed even if lo does magically sleep in a stroller. But feel like staying for 2 hours for that much driving wouldn't be worth it. Should I risk it and hope for the best or leave early for a comfortable nap and evening for me & lo?

Formula fed night feeds

How is everyone feeding their babies through the night. We've recently changed over from premade to formula but the whole process, especially in the middle of the night, seems lengthy. Boiling the kettle and waiting 30 minutes for it to cool, mixing and then waiting until it's room temp when my baby is crying just doesn't seem like the best way. I am looking to get a nuby but the midwife didn't recommend it. Any tips are welcome x

No sleep club

Is anyone else still in the rubbish sleep club?
My baby is 8 weeks old, breastfeeding, and still waking every 1-2hrs at night.
Feeling very crap and lonely being awake all the time! Anyone else?

My 7 month old just moans or cries as soon as I put her down

Has anyone experienced or currently going through it…
Every time I put my 7 month old girl down to either play, change nappy or just to simply have a wee she moans or cries. I’m either right next to her or in the same room and she’s still not happy.
Is this a phase or have I done something to encourage this behaviour.
I am picking her up eventually when she cries because the cries just kill me off… but is this encouraging the behaviour, should I try to leave her crying with the hope she learns that moaning doesn’t get her way?
Advice wanted - I am loosing my mind!!