Rant #2
Does anyone else’s partner struggle with sexual resentment?
I’m almost 9 months postpartum, I had a 2nd degree tear and my scar is still thin and very sensitive. I’m exclusively breastfeeding so because of my hormones I have absolutely no desire for sex and my scar being sore sometimes just makes my desire less.
Despite this I still try to have sex with my husband once a week even though we spend no quality time together. If we skip a week or if he goes a little too long without sex he gets resentful and grumpy and makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.
He said he’s trying to understand but he has “needs”.
Feeling obligated to have sex makes me want it even less. Now I feel like I’m stuck between just do it and deal with it because I’ll eventually go back to normal and if I force myself it’s going to build resentment on my side and my desire for my husband will go away all together. What do I do? What do you guys do when this happens? I know this is common and normal after a baby
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I’m so sorry. My husband does not say or treat me that way (I don’t know if he feels that way but if he does he certainly doesn’t let me know). My husband is understanding when I explain how I feel or my mood, etc etc. I’m trying not to sound too judgemental as I dont know you guys personally, but that seems unfair of him to say and put on you. He should be more understanding and supportive. I get he has needs but he can take care of his own needs if it’s that bad. It won’t be like this forever.
Its not about him anymore. You have a baby. He needs to understand you and your body. You shouldn't feel like you have to do it or if you dont you feel guilty. I wouldn't my health would be more important.
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