Advice??

A few days ago told my babys "dad" that he cant see her anymore because of the things he has done to me and he said wheres your proof and is going to try to take me to court. Hes not on the birth certificate and hasn't had a dna test and I just got out of safe place.i dont know what to do I'm a ftm and I'm 19
.what is actions I can take? He is abusive he has never hit me but has raised his hand to has pushed me while pregnant and not and has grabbed me, sexually ( what's the difference between assault and abuse when it comes to sexual) and has blocked me from going to the bathroom..etc..all in front of my 4 month old..I need help..he scares me I cant think of him being around her especially without me there..I'm freaking out..Amy advice I got the papers for a PFA today just waiting from a call back from the court adv. To help me fill it out..I dont know his appartment number but was told I cant go see because its considered stalking..they said I need to jump on it and take him to court but i dont have the money for this..I don't know what to do...

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First things first go to a lawyer and get advice from them advice should be free, then that way you have a record of speaking to someone about the partner of police were to show up.
second thing take legal action sooner rather than later simply because the longer you leave it the worse it will be when/if you do go to court the judge will ask why you waited so long to take action and can dismiss the charges.
Thirdly he isn’t on the birth certificate, sooo legally he has no right to say anything further about your child and you don’t have to do a DNA test if you don’t want to! again legally he has no say because he isn’t on the birth certificate. I’ve been down this path with my friends n her baby daddy so I do know what the outcome will be if you don’t take Legal action soon! And sexual assault is when they touch/grop you inappropriately and without your consent and sexual abuse is where they forcefully make you do/perform sexual acts without your consent x hope that helps you mumma

I dont have money to take him to court and all that so legal action I can take other than that is?

In Texas, a Restraining Order is simply a court order instructing a person or entity to not take a certain activity. ... In Texas, a Protective Order exists when family violence has occurred, and is issued for the protection of the victim. a protective order is free. You cannot be charged a fee for filing, serving, entering a protective order, or for getting additional certified copies of the order.

All good I hope everything works out the best for you n your bub let me know if you need anything at all I’m only a message away xx

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I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

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Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.