Is it wrong that I don’t want my child’s father with me at birth ?

Throughout my whole pregnancy he’s been nothing but stress and negativity . At a time where he should be comforting and supporting me mentally , emotionally and physically he’s hasn’t been there for me because he chose his perc addiction and his friends over everything !! As much as it hurts to have to be distant with him at this time , I really been working on protecting my peace and energy. I can’t imagine how he would be during my labor & I can imagine what it’s like going through a labor with someone that’s high off percs and not even knowing how to support or comfort me. Am I wrong for not wanting him there ?

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Showering with my baby? Is it unsafe/ wrong?

Is it weird to take a shower with my baby boy? Is it a bad thing? I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately because I can never shower I’m 11 weeks pp and my husband started a new job. He is gone all day to work and I can’t just leave my baby alone so I can shower. I can’t hear the monitor over the running water and even if he is sleeping if I leave the room he wakes up and starts crying and doesn’t stop unless I pick him up and if I put him down again he cries again and I’m against letting my baby just cry it out. So I’ve been neglecting my own self care and hygiene and it’s really taking a toll on my mental health. So I guess what I’m really wondering is it wrong, and is it unsafe?

Getting out of the house

Please tell me I’m not the only one who finds it near impossible to get out of the house with my LO 😓 She’s 4.5 months and I’ve barely gone outside since giving birth. Where I live it’s still super cold and the 3 times I attempted an outdoor walk with her she started crying after 10 minutes…
She won’t nap or nurse on the go anymore and still nurses every 1.5-2 hours. Up until 4 months her cluster feeding was so frequent I couldn’t go anywhere because of that. I’m completely house bound and going crazy. I feel like every other new mom I see on my social media is out to restaurants, Pilates classes, vacations, etc with their babies and for some reason I’m the only one who can’t handle it. Tell me this gets easier 😭

Edit: *it’s not because I worry about OTHER people with my baby’s crying- her crying stresses ME out especially because I know I’m depriving her of food or sleep because I went further than 30 minutes from our house and she won’t nurse or nap until we get home. It just feels like too much hassle and stress to bother.

Am I over reacting?

MIL came over on sunday to help with childcare, I'm heavily pregnant so she said why don't you go for a nap while I'm here.
I had a 2 hr nap upstairs and during that time she fell asleep on the sofa for 1.5 hrs. I know because we have security cameras round the house which i looked at later on after she'd gone.
My daughter slept for 30 mins on her, on the arm of the sofa and then the rest of the time she was left with the TV on.
I'm really annoyed because we have a wooden floor, a coffee table that she tries to climb on, she had hair ties which she often pulls out and tries to chew therefore a choking risk.
She's 20 months old.
Am I over reacting?
The worst thing is when I came downstairs after my nap, she 'she's not had much sleep only about 10 minutes'. But idk how she'd know that because my daughter woke up ages before she did.

Bedtime

Hi mamas. I let my baby watch kids videos for bedtime until he gets asleep. Am I a worse mum??

Poo Help Needed 😱

My baby is approaching 6 months and is exclusively breastfed. A midwife warned us to expect that by this point, he would be pooing once a week and would make a big song and dance about it.

My baby poos once or twice a day, sometimes three times, without fail. Probably one in three is very vinegary, and they are in general smelly - I can tell he's pooed on smell alone.

They are also fairly explosive. He's in a larger size nappy than his weight to try and contain the poo as we have frequent blowouts! He also generally only poos in his car seat unless it's first thing in the morning!

Other than pooping, he seems completely healthy. He has maintained appropriate weight gain at his last check (which admittedly was at 3 months), but he's chubby and round. He also has plenty of wet nappies. I'd love to hear from people as to whether this is normal or whether I should be worried that this is an allergy or something!!!

How many poos does your EBF baby do a day / week? Please let me know!!!

Painful bowel movements

Hi all,

My 11 month old has incredibly painful bowel movements, it looks as though her poo is so large (wide) that its agony to get out so she screams. Once the first part is out (usually with some help) the rest comes out fine.

The GP has given her laxatives but this has been going on for months and she can't take them everyday so I try to limit them.

Anyone else have this? She has CMPA but does have anything with cows milk so it's not that.

Thanks x