Getting out of the house

Please tell me I’m not the only one who finds it near impossible to get out of the house with my LO 😓 She’s 4.5 months and I’ve barely gone outside since giving birth. Where I live it’s still super cold and the 3 times I attempted an outdoor walk with her she started crying after 10 minutes…
She won’t nap or nurse on the go anymore and still nurses every 1.5-2 hours. Up until 4 months her cluster feeding was so frequent I couldn’t go anywhere because of that. I’m completely house bound and going crazy. I feel like every other new mom I see on my social media is out to restaurants, Pilates classes, vacations, etc with their babies and for some reason I’m the only one who can’t handle it. Tell me this gets easier 😭

Edit: *it’s not because I worry about OTHER people with my baby’s crying- her crying stresses ME out especially because I know I’m depriving her of food or sleep because I went further than 30 minutes from our house and she won’t nurse or nap until we get home. It just feels like too much hassle and stress to bother.

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My LO is only 2 months old but I feel exactly the same, especially since since he still only contact sleeps, won't accept to be in any sort of crib/pram/car seat at the moment so it's a waste of time. We went to the park twice last week - first time we made it to the park down the road (assisted by a friend) but just to end up feeding on a bench for an hour; second time I attempted to join some friends for a walk but, again, after screaming all the way there (I kept turning to go back extremely embarrassed), we only managed for the coffee part as I was holding him and feeding!
It's so upsetting for both of us that I think why do I bother and tell myself wait until it gets easier..soooo really hope someone who has been through similar situations can reassure us that things DO get better 🙈
Same as you, rest of mums I know go to yoga and swimming classes, I am ticking my "must watch" list on Netflix instead 😅

Ive hardly been out either. Unless its t drs with her or walk in the pram. Its just too much hassle, but apart from that i have really bad ppa and my anxiety is through the roof with what if she cries in the car, what if its hard to find a place to change her, what if she starts screaming etc. Plus getting heavy pram in boot, rain cover etc. Ive been to one baby class because my friend came with me. Timing also....between feeds and naps its like planning for a major event. Youre not alone trust me. Im about to transition her to buggy so she can see more of the outside world and wont be overstimulated if we go somewhere busy

It does get easier. A lot easier. Believe it or not in a few months you will probably find it is easier to be out with them than at home! I suggest finding a nice baby group of some sort to go to. Somewhere where they have the attitude that there is no such thing as late and where it is expected that you will just feed your baby whenever and wherever you need to. These groups do exist, I promise.

Yeah I’m the same I have a 4 month old and it’s just so much hassle and the weather is the same where I am it’s raining all the time . Your not on your own honestly x

This is why social media needs a giant red disclaimer: NOT REFLECTIVE OF REALITY.

Momming is a huge commitment and hard work. If they're getting out on the regular it's because they have help. They don't show you the nanny and housekeeper in the background who take care of everything while they out to eat or go a Pilates class.

This all sounds so normal and you are definately not alone. My LO is 9 months now, i rememvber up until 5-6 months I had phases of on and off struggling to go out alone or for long especially baby classes. It will get there!

When you go out do you put her in the stroller or baby carrier?! I find my LO now at 4 months is much less fussy in her carrier and often falls asleep in it!

Also it’s SO hard getting out of the house but the more you do it the better it gets. My baby cried non stop for 6 weeks and it was horrible but I forced myself to do it and she’s so much better now (and my mental health is better for it too). Fresh air helps a lot! Put some headphones on and just pop her in a carrier and go for a little walk!

I promise it’ll get easier ❤️

We also started little swim classes weekly which have helped a lot too!

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