Menopause and sex

I am in menopause because of surgical reasons, but it’s definitely affecting my sexuality. Mine is directly medical trauma related though, so it’s hard to know if it will come back or not.

I've been in a sexual slump for the past 10 years. I don't have the desire for sex and the fact that I've lost almost all feeling down there isn't helpful. My husband and I argue constantly about it. The doctors aren't sure what's wrong and what's causing these issues.

I've definitely lost my sex drive, I hate it. My partner is supportive but we've only been together 10 months so I feel so guilty 😔

I am 68 and I stay horny seems like my libido is working overtime .

Mine has definitely changed, but it’s still there. The physical changes have made penetration tricky - I can’t have oestrogen, and am investigating alternative hormone and what else is possible.

I like to have sex! I'm having some symtoms , glad it's not vaginal dryness!

Hey everyone I was in the same boat I didn’t want my boyfriend to touch me but I found some stuff like touching and different styles made a difference

I’m 47 and in perimenopause… if anything my sexuality has increased. My partner loves it and so do I! If we could have intimacy everyday I’d be the happiest. Believe me. I believe it is linked with me accepting who I am entirely. I do not hold back when it comes to what I like doing. I just simply let myself go. It’s been really interesting, I’ve discovered things about myself I knew nothing about or had never even given it the thought.

My drive is HIGH as long as well m with him. When we are apart I could care less. But I have to admit the sensation isn't the same. I've heard that and arginine/ornithine complex can help with the blood flow issue and wake her back up .. might have to give it a try.

Let’s get the project started! I want my groove back!

I had sexual issues for a long while thought it was menopause until I left my ex. Sex with my new partner 6 years later Is amazing.

I’m 50 and had a hysterectomy last year because of bleeding, pollops, endometriosis, cysts, and fibroids. My sex drive DIED after that. I’m newly married and could honestly care less about sex. It hurts when we do no matter how lube we use. It makes me sad because I used to love sex.

This is basically why I’ve come to this app… I have completely lost my libido. I don’t really miss it either. But sex used to be very important and pleasurable for me. Now I don’t even feel like masturbating. I breastfed my kids for nearly eight years which also decreased my libido. Part of the issue I know is difficulties in my relationship, nothing abusive, just frustrations. I’m just curious if libido has shut down more due to relationship or if this is a fairly common occurrence. Glancing through this discussion though, I see a lot of women here have healthy libido and sex life.

I used to enjoy masterbation and it helped me keep my sex drive alive. But now that doesn’t interest me either. And right now I’m on a year long taper off of benzos for anxiety. I feel like they squashed my desire too.

I’m technically now post menopause and have had zero libido for the last 18-24 months. I love my husband and we used to have a fabulous relationship but my lack of desire has stuck around the resentments have increased. And any sort of emotional intimacy is draining from our marriage.

I’ve trying HRT but it’s been 3 months with no change. I have absolutely no desire for sex. None.

It’s heartbreaking and one of the big reasons I’m here.

I am still very much perimenopasal. Up until a couple weeks ago, I had what I would consider a healthy sex drive, then it just died on me. I am seeking help by going to my GYN this week. I don't know much about my options. Am open to suggestions just to start.

I just joined peanut. I am not happy to read about many losing their sex drive, but it opened my eyes that it’s not just me. I have been so depressed that my desire has died. I feel dead down there. I am 49 and had a blood test that said I am post menaposal. I’m not even sure how I am post since o had one period this year. But I honestly don’t know how all this works:( I lost my mom five years ago so I can’t ask her. I am thankful to find this space and to read I’m not alone.

I'm having the total opposite issue!😂 It's horrible!

Plant based

Im sure once you sort a relif for menapause symtoms it will all return,i have a merena coil,and hrt patches,and i have a amazing sex life,infact,i just cant get enough of it...

Yes, mine, too. I had a hysterectomy when I was 28, and it forced me into Menopause. I'm 42 now, and the only thing I deal with is decreased libido and very painful sex. So far, nothing has helped with the pain. I think if I could get that handled, my libido may come back. Thank goodness my husband is sweet and understanding. He doesn't like the pain it causes me, so he'll stop.

My hubby seems to be completely off me since I have had the hysterectomy. It was like a door slamming in my face tbh. It hurts emotionally and very frustrating physically. Esp.as sometimes all I can think of is getting a release as the urges become intense. Thank God for battery toys ladies. He knows I have some toys He just chooses to ignore it. He's loving and caring in other ways but tbh I'd love to just have a full on let just go for it session but he just doesn't want it. No matter how blunt I am about it.

I have i think gained sex drive rather than lost

My libido is fine. My hubby lost his a long time ago. I have gone solo for years and I hate it.

Mine has gone through the roof!

Zero libido. Very sad

My libido is higher post-menopause than it's been since my 20s!

I am one HOTT MAMA over here !

I am to hot to get hot 🥵.

Menopause hit me and my sex drive is through the roof. I think I'm going through puberty again

A hysterectomy at 39 threw me into menopause and eventually made sex the most painful act in earth. I hate it because my sex drive is still in full force. Wish there was a fix for the pain.

I'm going through a separation right now. Currently still living in his house together. Financial issues for me right now but it's only temporary. Unfortunately I lost my mojo. 🥺🙄
I have ALWAYS had a sex drive. No matter what. I've been through a divorce before. Been at rock bottom before. Always found a someone to satisfy MY needs .
Now it's just not in my focus or even on my mind. It's gone. Someone stole my mojo. I can't even get behind the idea of having sex or being intimate with anyone AT ALL. Is this a thing anyone has experienced?? I just turned 42 last week. I've had a partial hysterectomy 3 or 4 yrs ago and I don't know why I'm like this. Ive had multiple times to engage in sexual content even. I'm just not even turned on by the fact of being sexually interested in ANYTHING at all
Send help. 🥺😂😂🥵

me too. I tried a gel to create stimulation, nothing. But I'm also feeling resentful, no physical affection between us whatsoever. That makes me very sad. Unfortunately I'm struggling with how to ask for what I want.