Sex after birth

On Sunday, it’ll be 4 weeks since I had my baby. Me and my partner, for the first time in months, got a bit intimate tonight and it was very much needed however we didn’t end up having intercourse due to no contraception just yet (going to get condoms). I’m a little scared, as I am feeling sexual but after having a baby, the thought of sex scares me a little. Am i supposed to be cleared for sex (in the UK), do i have to wait for the “6 week” mark? Help a gal out 🙏🏻

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Yes you do if you don’t you risk getting infection because you still have a gap from your placenta coming out. Now just playing with the clit is different my boyfriend and I did stuff with eachother but we didn’t have sex until 6 weeks hurt like hell so we didn’t try again till 9 weeks

You really do need to wait for the 6 week mark.

I'd wait. Far less risk of infections and problems. Plus there are plenty of other things you can do to be intimate 😉

You should wait the recommended 6 weeks because you don't want to get infection you have to remember after having a baby you have a wound inside of you that has to heal

I would wait i was not intimate with my partner until almost 3 months after postpartum

You need to wait or you risk infection, ripped stitches, etc. You waited this long, you can wait a little longer. You can do other intimate things that don’t require penetration if you need to be intimate though.

My OBGYN said to wait 6 weeks but use Protection if we couldn't wait. I tried at the 5 week mark because I wanted to be able to talk to her if I had any sex related issues at the 6 week check. She wasn't concerned that we'd done it

I think it depends if you are ready and how the birth process was. I had a second degrees tear and was told the stitches would have all healed up by the 5 week mark

Please wait! It’s not worth risking your life. You risk infection and it is bad. Telling you to wait 6 weeks has nothing to do with your vagina but your uterus. The placenta created a hole and your body is trying to repair it.

Whatever you decide to do just remember you can get pregnant again! I was 3 months postpartum when I got pregnant AGAIN!!!! Breastfeeding also is not a form of contraception.

I made it 4 weeks after each birth I had a singleton then twins 5 years later both times we only lasted 4 weeks but it was mutual and more about romance and loving each other than sex we were careful and used protection and took it slow.

I would wait. I’m almost 5 weeks pp and me and my boyfriend were yesterday in the morning I was in pain all day. I took a ibuprofen and took a nap. I feel better now.

Definitely take it slow. Insertion and all. It did hurt the first couple times and it scared me too but after a while the pain went away and I enjoyed it again.

If it doesn’t hurt then go
For it! You would know if it wasn’t good for you. Also birth control is pretty nice as an insurance plan.

Each to their own mamma! You know how you feel. For me, it was different after each of my three kids. First one I had stopped bleeding and we had sex 2 weeks PP with no pain and it was great, second time around we tried 3 weeks after and I hated it and it hurt so we waited another few weeks until I was ready, third time I bled for 6 weeks after and was in pain a lot still so wasn’t till after I was cleared that we even entertained the idea. As long as you don’t have stitches or bleeding (more because of risk of infection and your body is still in the thick of healing than preference) then it’s your call.

I had sex when I was about to be 4 weeks pp but it was quick so then we tried again when I was 8 weeks pp and it didn’t hurt at all

Waiting is best! It can cause infection. Yes I had sex wayyyyyy too early!! It definitely hurt (I had a c-section and I was breast feeding) Breast feeding is not 100% and should not be used as a form of contraception. My husband and I felt really intimate and it was mutual. Also, I was extremely depressed, sex usually peps me up….so I am sure he was also trying to get his wife back who had mentally checked out. Post partum depression is REAL.

3 weeks - was too early 😂 - this time around I’ll be waiting the advised 6 weeks!

I’ve been told both times that there isn’t a right time, it’s when ever you feel ready, as long as you make sure you’re protected if you don’t want another baby x

I had sex like a week and a half pp. as long as you're comfortable, you're fine

I would say that once you’re ready to have intercourse make sure you’re communicating with your partner. Remind him that things aren’t like before and your body went through a big change and it’s sensitive right now. And if it hurts don’t be afraid to stop you’ll get back to having sex like before with time.

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