Big chop anniversary

Today am celebrating my 1 year big chop and it was the best decision I have ever made. I love my curls ❤️

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I have a wife, a sugar daddy, and a boyfriend. I’m also an escort.

In 2020 I got married to a man. By 2025, we had two kids and our youngest was about to turn 1. I was a stay at home mom, aside from the sensual massage (aka happy endings) that I did on the side. While I was pregnant with our second, I met this really old client who became my sugar daddy. He’s a lot of drama and work but it’s worth it for what I get in return. I never had sex with him until after I gave birth (with husband’s permission). But sex with him is a bit like trying to fuck a gummy worm, so I’m not sure it really even counts. He is somewhat delusional and thinks we are in a real relationship, though I make abundantly it clear that my affection for him correlates directly to how much money he spends on me. And when I say this man is obsessed with me. I mean it. He is beyond obsessed. He has framed photos of me all over his house, including a 2ft by 3ft poster of my face that he had custom printed out, and framed text message exchanges between us (whenever I text something sappy and romantic to him, its not me it’s chatgpt. I’ll copy paste these long ass messages from him and tell it to come up with some equally sappy response).

Just before my youngest turned one, my husband came out to me as transgender, and started the transition process. It was a very rough adjustment period. I grieved the marriage I thought I had. I thought we were going to get divorced for sure. I started dating other guys, which really didn’t go well and then I decided I’m never having sex for free again, EVER.
I started high end escorting, and it went so well, I’m kicking myself for not having done this sooner. I make so much more money than ever before, and I’ve been in different forms of sex work since I was 18. For logistical reasons, I decided I’d stay married. With two kids ages 2 and barely 1, it just made sense. The thought of doing it all on my own was far too overwhelming.
Eventually I came to accept that I have a wife now, even though I am a straight woman. We bought a house together. She is an amazing spouse, more empathetic and nurturing than ever before. We’ve owned this house for just slightly over a year now, and while things have been really good between us… I’m still straight. I miss the scent and strength of a man, the feel of resting my cheek against a hairy, muscular chest…
We agreed to open the marriage. It was supposed to be just a casual fling, and at first, it was. But now, I am in love with this other man. I lost all sexual attraction for my wife when she transitioned, although we continued having a sexual relationship until recently. I can no longer keep fooling myself that this is what I want. I was only open to sex with her because she really wanted to. Now we have a platonic marriage, which is what I want.
I’m not going to blow up my marriage for a boyfriend. Boyfriends come and go. I want to stay married. And I still see myself growing old with her, despite everything.
My boyfriend is 23. I’m 33. He knows I’m married, knows about the sugar daddy and my past sex work, but does not know that I currently still escort. We’re not even exclusive yet, but he said he’s not seeing anyone else. He’s hesitant to tell me to delete my tinder, for the singular reason that I am married. I love him, but I know that age gap is pretty bad. I’m taking it one day at a time. I don’t have relationship goals or a 5 year plan with him. We’re just having fun right now, in the moment. I’m not going to rearrange my life around any other person.
My wife is having facial feminization surgery next week, and I have a lot of feelings about it. I’m afraid she won’t be recognizable anymore, and it’s heartbreaking. When she heals, she’s going to start dating as well. I am happy for her, she deserves to have a boyfriend who is physically attracted to her and treats her like a princess. Couldn’t be me.
But she has said she wants to date women too, and even though I am not wanting to have a sexual/romantic relationship with her, I still don’t want her to have some other woman. Because I sacrificed so much to make room for HER, as the other woman, even allowing our children to call her “mom”, even though she never helped me when they were babies, and with our first the PPD nearly took my life. I can’t handle yet another woman encroaching on MY territory.
I thought that my wife was OK with us having a purely platonic marriage. She had told me she was. And it worked out perfectly for me, because I can’t be sexually attracted to her anymore after the transition. But last night I spent the night at my boyfriend‘s house, and when I came home in the morning, she said she wants to divorce. Because she still wants us to have that romantic/sexual element of our marriage and she can’t be with me without that.

I’m my perfect world, we would stay legally married, but live together as BFF’s. She wouldn’t be NEEDING me to prioritize and choose her. That’s why she was so pissed that I slept over at my boyfriend’s house last night and why I said I don’t want to be limited to one date with him per week. She’s no longer my sexual partner so I should be able to go out and do whatever the fuck I want, as long as I leave after we put the kids to bed and come home before they wake up.

We’re sleeping in separate rooms now. She wants me to “decide what I want”. I know exactly what I want. I’ve told her so. I don’t need more time to mull it over. I can’t force myself to want a sexual relationship with her.

Not asking for advice just getting this off my chest.

Alright screw it, here’s my Substack Substack.com/leopardseal1993 I’ll be posting unhinged true stories about my life here. And if things go south with my boyfriend and I get back on the apps…it’s gonna be a wild ride!

Remote job! 👩🏻‍💻

Any remote jobs available that are hiring? Currently a sahm but I would like to start some income from home

Money advice

Hi guys I’m looking for advice, due to unforeseen circumstances I cannot return to work until January , and my MAT leave has now stopped. My partner earns a semi decent wage , nothing lavish , however we cannot live solely off his wage , is there anything at all I can claim ? I would appreciate any advice you can give me ,
Yours sincerely , one Mumma that can’t stop crying over money issues

In need of a friend

I feel like the older I get (I’m 36) the more lonely I feel! I have 2 good friends compared to when I was in my 20s when my phone was always pinging off and now it’s dryer than nuns coochie 😂🫣 I’m a SAHM and I’m so bored of having no one to talk to xx

Raging at my OBGYN

Vent

So my OB really is making this journey a pain in the ass. First they scheduled me with a doctor who is retiring this winter and no longer takes patients--so I was rescheduled twice with my current doctor. That was two separate occasions.
I then needed approval for medication for my asthma because I was suffocating from a flare up. They never called back after 3 days and contacting the office is a bitch since AI answers calls. I was going to wait for my next appointment to get meds but I'm so unwell that I got an emergency script.

Then today I was suppose to have said appointment plus my anatomy scan. Husband takes off work for the day, excited to see his little man and ensure I'm healthy. I get a call last minute to reschedule because my doctor moved offices.

Last time I checked the doctor needs to be flexible with a patient's schedule. Not the other way around. Especially in a day and age when both parties have to work in this shit economy so making time for an appointment can be a hassle.

If they mess up again I'm switching clinics because I'm 20 weeks and I don't have the patience for all this nonsense. They screwed up 3/4 appointments so far and I've had it.

I'm already very nervous about how my baby is doing. I've only seen him once in a scan at 7 weeks and he was only a tiny bean.

My family is super excited and they're getting equally as pissed with me when it comes to the doctor's office. 🫩

Any girlies in South Brisbane keen for a coffee?

I need girlies who are interested in yapping and not ghosting 😭