2 days ago we went in for our 20 week ultrasound. We were so excited to find out the gender but found out there was no heartbeat. I was induced and after 4 hours in labor gave birth to our 2nd little boy. We held him, named him, and cried so much.
My husband is already talking about still not wanting our son to be an only child. I don't want him to be either but I think I would be a mess during pregnancy. I'm 35 so I don't feel like I have much time to try again.
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I'm so sorry your going through this 😔. I'm sending you so much love.🤍

Sending my love 🙏🏾🌈

I’m so sorry. Would you like to share your son’s name with us?
My twins Auden and Este died at 20 weeks last June. Its so heartbreaking, truly the hardest thing a parent should never have to do is say goodbye as they also say hello. If you ever need someone to talk to who gets it, or want to talk about TTC after loss, my DMs are open to you 💜

His name is Tobias (God is good) Gabriel (God is my strength).

Oh Michala I’m so so sorry. ♥️ We went in for our 19-week anatomy scan this January and found out we’d lost our baby at 16 weeks. It was (and still is) devastating. We were so excited to find out baby’s sex. He was our 5th baby and our first boy.
Please feel free to message me if you need to talk ♥️

Hi Michala. I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your sad loss. My heart breaks for you 💔 There really are no words at a time like this…. Whilst my circumstances are a bit different I can relate to the pain you’re no doubt feeling right now. I lost my twin boys last month, at 22 weeks. Whilst born alive they weren’t with us for very long due to being so early. It really is shattering, after being so excited about their arrival and having so many hopes for them. It’s the cruelest thing to have them taken away like that. It’s something I’m still trying to come to terms with, and sometimes I’m not sure I ever will…. I’m 37, and it took my husband and I a while to conceive the boys. So whilst it feels wrong to even think about trying again like you I worry I don’t have much time. We do still really want a family so I feel like even though mentally I’m not ready I can’t wait too long x

I'm so sorry. I hope you got some time to hold him and be with him. It's never enough and it will always be the biggest loss. Take your time healing. You will always grieve Tobias. I'm hoping to have more kids and I'm going to be 34 soon, don't lose hope mama. When your ready, that will be the best time.