Child support (please no judging)
I’m currently pregnant with my first baby off of a “one night stand” with someone I had met years ago yet only recently did we reconnect and sleep together for the first time.
After that ONE night, we continued to speak and see eachother at the gym and such but a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant.
After telling him, he immediately asked me to get rid of it and said he didn’t want to be involved.
Personally (no shame to others at all), I don’t agree with abortions and could never put myself through one. so I said I’m keeping it.
I did make it very clear to him that my decision wasn’t changing and I in no way am expecting him to step up and be a father. I even said he doesn’t need to be involved AT ALL. I am not one to trap someone in a situation they don’t want to be in, and I’m not one to blame him for this either or hold him accountable.
This is why I’m struggling, I have multiple people telling me I should claim child support off of him regardless. Personally, I don’t want to as he did ask me to get rid of it and I was the one who said no. yes, it’s both of us that created this situation.. but I’m the reason the situation still exists. which is why I don’t think it’s fair for me to make him pay.
We haven’t spoken ONCE since the week I found out (3-4 months ago)
What would you do???