What’s the hardest part of your TTC/ infertility journey?

Is it the waiting?

The lack of support from your significant other?

Lack of education/ support from friends/family?

The other pregnancy announcements?

The financial piece of it? (IUI/ IVF ladies)?

The time/ energy it takes out of your life/ day?

The diet and or lifestyle change you’ve had to make for it?

Just curious to know what everyone is struggling most with.

I know there’s a lot more that people could be struggling with than what’s listed but just thought of a few quick ones...

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1 millllion percent the waiting! I go back and for only 300x a day on whether or not I “feel” pregnant. #toxiccc 🤣

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The waiting .. the wait for appointments, test results , more appointments.. constant waiting

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I'd say the waiting is the hardest part for me because I really would love to welcome my first child into the world but just wasn't given that chance yet and it hurts my heart ❤️🥺 also the lack of support from my family because I'm 25 years old and they think I should already have it all together before a baby but to me it's what matters in your heart and soul not up to others opinions when u feel u and your partner are ready for a baby that's all that matters 🐥🍼 and the other pregnancy announcements do hurt because I'm wishing for it but I don't let it get the best of me but to me these are the hardest parts of my journey so far but I'm grateful my doctor's said I'm fertile and healthy and can carry full term with no complications so I'm glad 😊 I got some light on my way to becoming a first time mommy 🎊🍼🐥🤱

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It’s definitely the waiting and the emotions I would say.
Get your period and then sad, after that trying to have has much baby dancing as possible (even though you’re knackered/cba/had a tiff with your partner but know your ovulating so need to make the most of it).
Then the 2WW which is overthinking every symptom/getting your hopes up/then going back down with every symptom. And then period comes again and after to try and pick yourself up again.
Then tbh even after you see doctors it’s always just waiting to try the next think (which brings emotions with it) and it just seems never ending.
I think it’s by far the hardest thing me or my partner have gone through and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
(Sorry to be a total downer)

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The waiting and the other pregnancy announcements x

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I am at the beginning of my journey, after some personal setbacks, getting divorced at 34 after wanting and expecting to have children for years. Was planning on having a baby on my own with a sperm donor, but was told this summer I had a low egg count and should freeze. I've decided to freeze embryos, so can try and implant when I am more financially ready in a year or 2 (promotions hopefully pending plus home purchase) I am happy to be making positive steps to secure my future but feeling pretty overwhelmed right now, with the cost, the worry, will it even work, and the change to diet... low caffeine is a killer for me, and normally I like alcohol but have cut it out mostly. Also the constant pregnancy announcements from my friends and how so many of thir lives have changed with children, in a way that I want, bit don't have yet, and having to just observe it all is pretty heartbreaking. Know that many of you will be feeling similar things ❤️

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The hardest part for me right now is trying to reconcile how easily I got pregnant with the wrong person at the wrong time (we were trying to prevent it and I ended up terminating at 9 weeks) with the fact that my partner and I ARE TRYING and it's not happening as quickly and easily as I hoped it would.

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I think it’s the emotional battle between trying to remain hopeful but feeling so incomplete because it feels like you aren’t able to deliver 😣 every day I learn more about how different each one of our bodies is and it gives me a bit of a relief… but I see ppl who unintentionally get pregnant and It crushes me…such a rollercoaster

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I would say the waiting and then the emotional stress. These days I eat, drink, sleep ttc. Every convo i have with my husband is about doctors appts, results,ovulation. He pretty much understands the ttc lingo. It's all very exhausting at times.

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The waiting and the emotional rollercoaster that ranges from hopeful to depressed. If you go through testing and get diagnosed with unexplained infertility that is also extremely frustrating, like medical science doesn't know why your body doesn't work and that's infuriating.

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The hardest part is the TWW and feeling all the pregnancy symptoms after an expensive procedure of donor sperm , iui # 1 and #2 failed … it’s heartbreaking… so emotionally crushing….

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Waiting to see if pregnant, waiting to see if anything will go wrong again. Can’t get excited.

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The waiting, the announcement and family and friends asking if we’re going to have a baby soon… sometimes I just want to scream at them

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But im not finished.

You ever been so horny you just want to get off multiple times break a sweat and just get f***ed but then your spouce cums too quick and then the baby starts crying so you just stay pent up? Me too.

Ive had men tell me to "tell them what I want" okay well I told you not to c*m yet and then you c*me quicker. Wtf.

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Conceiving after birth (post infertility)

Hi, I’m just looking for some advice, I’m only 20 weeks pregnant atm with my first but we’ve had so many issues conceiving in the first place, it’s taken 6 constant years of trying with not even one positive test until this baby! (No losses thank god)

After a few years of trying with no success we did find out I have an under active thyroid and PCOS and got diagnosed as infertile but now I can’t be happier!

Everything said I know I haven’t gone through the birth yet and I do want to give my body the time to heal but honestly we’ve always wanted a big family and there’s so much anxiety about being able to conceive again.

I know after you give birth you’re most fertile which is great but I just don’t know how long that lasts. I obviously don’t want to get pregnant 6 weeks after I’ve given birth but if that’s the only choice so it doesn’t take 6 years again I would do it :/

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Is this a faint line?

I took a test and within 1 minute it showed this. As I wasn’t sure I ended up taking another test 30 minutes later and it was negative. What do you guys think?

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How do you feel about this, and could you please explain?

Do you view having children as a positive or negative aspect of your life? Asset or liability?

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Evaporation Line?

Hey guys - is this an Evap line or a positive?
This is my first pregnancy so I’m unsure what to expect from a test - all previous cycles have been a stark nothing - I thought I saw a line straight away but this is now after 15mins
10DPO (confirmed with Oura Ring and LH strips)
Thanks x

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Heartbroken 9dpo negative!

I’m so heartbroken! Tested at 9dpo and it was clearly negative after trying for 6 months after a loss. Anyone else test negative at 9dpo and ended up pregnant 😭 I’m feeling defeated!

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