Is anyone thinking of not getting the TDAP vaccine?

I’m just not having a good feeling about it & seeing people have had horrible reactions to it.

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Tdap makes your arm really sore but I’ve never known anyone to have any extreme reaction to it. I’ve had pertussis when I was in high school and it was miserable so for me I’ll do anything I can to make sure my baby doesn’t get it

You should have had two Tdap in your life if you haven’t had a reaction to those then you will be okay unlike myself I had a horrible reaction to it when I was little so I never got my second of the one they give you whole pregnant

I’ve gotten it as a child and as a pregnant adult and have never had any horrible reaction. Just sore arm for a few days. I definitely don’t want to worry about whooping cough with a newborn.

I actually just got mine today, sore arm but that’s it

Never any reactions here for myself or family members that have gotten it to be around after birth haven’t had any issues either

I had pertussis in high school and was very sick for 3 months, in and out of the hospital. I still sound horrible when i cough because i never fully recovered. Approximately 50% of babies who get pertussis will be hospitalized, so for me, it was totally worth it!! And I had absolutely no reaction to the TDAP vaccine. Not even a sore arm.

Just a sore arm here too. No one I've known personally has had a bad reaction. Heard one person in peanut say they had a bad reaction but I don't put a ton of weight into that. Maybe by "bad" they meant "really sore shoulder" too. Benefits outweigh the risks by far imo

I got mine 2 days ago and my arm was a little sore but nothing serious.

I got mine yesterday and I haven’t had any reactions.

All I’ve got is a sore arm. It’s much like the flu shot, honestly. Sx are rare!

Pertussis is really scary for babies!

me either.

https://www.justtheinserts.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/TDAP-Infographic.pdf

There’s no way I’d get it.

I got the Tdap vax and only got a sore arm. I get being scared of reactions. Horror stories are 10x more terrifying when pregnant cause you want that little one safe. Personally for me, the benefits outweigh the risks as Tdap provides protection against illnesses that are very violent in nature especially diphtheria. Then again, it’s all up to you mama and what you think is best❤️

no judgement I’m just curious why like is there something you know that I don’t because I can’t decide if I want it or not and I have until Wednesday

because it’s not necessary to get during pregnancy. You can’t undo vaccines, ever. You can always vax your baby at two months if you want to. Our bodies are capable of building immunity to things and health is far more than pumping vaccines (chemicals) into our bloodstream.

in our community

Wdy think of this for a toddler to learn word construction?

I'm open to anything else to start teaching him to read and write. He's 3!

Do men really enjoy fellatio?

Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

Naps

How is everyone doing for naps?

Little one is 9 months old and will have 2 half hour naps and one solid 1 hour - 2 hour nap a day

Then settles for night around 9pm. Wakes for a feed around 3:30 then sleeps until 6-7

Vanilla extract

Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
I’m 100% sure my baby refuses her bottles as she doesn’t like the taste of it!

Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂

Pumping advise

FTM to a 2 week old! I’m breastfeeding and then giving one formula bottle last in the evening before bed. I want to start expressing milk to give me some breathing room and also allow my partner to be more involved in feeding. I’m finding the idea of introducing pumping into my day quite overwhelming though. I don’t want to take milk away from my baby by pumping if he needs it during the day when being breastfeed.

Can anyone advise how I start pumping and when to do it? Thank you!