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Early pregnancy bleeding. Need Advice

Just need some input as this has been such a confusing emotional time and I don’t know what’s going on. I’m 27, this is my first pregnancy.
Last period started 2/16
Missed period and positive pregnancy test 3/14
Had brown coffee ground like spotting starting 3/15 through 3/20
Started bleeding 3/21 light at first but now it’s day 6 of bleeding and it’s heavier with small jelly like clots and some tissue.
Went to the ER on 3/23, blood test and urine test verified pregnancy. HCG level was 250. Ultrasound showed nothing. Cervix is closed. They did find a small cyst on my ovary. Told to come back in 3 days for follow up HCG. Said it could be a threatened miscarriage or just too early to see anything or a chorionic hematoma.
Today, 3/26, HCG level is at 315. Still bleeding heavily no cramps. I see my OBGYN tomorrow. Anyone know what could be going on or have similar experience? Looking for hope 🙏
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I never had bleeding in both pregnancies but i heard that some people have bleeding in pregnancy. I dont know how true is that. Good wishes to you, hope everything is okay.

When I was pregnant the only time I would bleed was when I was fertilizing. When I had my miscarriages almost 3 years ago I would bleed a ton non stop for 2 months straight and having serious cramping and terrible pains all over my body and when I when to the doctors I was pregnant so they went and gave me an ultrasound and they also couldn’t see anything. I don’t wanna say you are having a miscarriage bc I don’t wanna wish that on anyone ever! But I hope you’re not girl🤍

it could be implantation bleeding as they call it. for some women it’s like a period. i had some bleeding a in my early pregnancy too. when i was 5 weeks and 8 weeks. both times my cervix was closed when checked at the ER. i’ve had two miscarriages and both times it was like a super heavy period to the point i could barely stand i was cramping so bad. i know it’s super scary and daunting but from what the drs at the er told me both times as long as the cervix is closed it’s a really good sign. try to relax and not worry to much. what’s going to happen is gonna happen but i wish you well and hope you have a healthy pregnancy!! 💗

i will start by saying i am so sorry you are going through all of this. it can all be very scary and please take good care of yourself! i see you have had some HCG draws and in my experience, (two previous early losses before/on 6 week milestone) i’ve been told and read just about everywhere that whatever the number is, it should be at least doubling within 48hrs. 250 to 315 in a 3 day window is not necessarily doubling so something to keep an eye on. as shitty as it is, sometimes, like with mine — there are no good reasons or explanations for miscarriage happening,& %90 of the time with early losses it’s just due to mom&dads dna not wanting to work together or just a genetic issue that isn’t viable in the long run. best thing to do is go to the OB appointment, have another HCG draw, and since you are so early the might or might not do an ultrasound-even when i was 6w1d baby looked like a solid white dot on the screen and that was all. sending you good vibes,please take good care of u💖

I’m in a similar situation as you right now. I started spotting on Thursday (6+1) and it progressively got worse. Went to the ER. My HCG was extremely low at 63 (don’t know what my levels were prior since I haven’t had my first prenatal appointment yet). They couldn’t see anything on the ultrasound cause of low HCG, apparently your HCG needs to be 1500 or above to see anything on ultrasounds. Left the ER with them telling me it’s either a miscarriage or everything could be fine. I don’t see my OB til Tuesday so it’s pretty much been a waiting game. I’m on day 3 of bleeding like a period but no cramps at all and in no pain so i don’t know what to think. Im more than 98% sure I’m going through a chemical pregnancy 😔 even though I haven’t gotten a for sure answer. Prayers to you and I hope everything turns out just fine!! 🤍

were definitely having similar situations right now! Let me know what updates you get and I’ll post mine here after my appointment tomorrow ❤️

I am the same I’ve got ultrasound tomo to see if they can find a heartbeat and been bleeding fingers crossed it isn’t the same for you hun 💗

okay will do! 💕

UPDATE: Went to seem my OBGYN today. She said because my HCG levels are not doubling, and my bleeding has increased heavily and I’m cramping now, she can positively say that it’s a miscarriage. 😞 she wants to keep an eye on my HCG levels to make sure they go back down to zero. I feel pretty “in tune”with my body and I definitely felt pregnant for a while and then it just stopped. Once I started bleeding I just knew and I kind of accepted the fact that I was not going to have this baby. Now that I have a definite answer it’s good to have that “closure” but it’s sooo devastating. Bleeding and cramping all day is just a constant reminder that I won’t be having our baby in November 💔😞 thanks for the well wishes everyone.

Hope u are okay Taylor I had the same outcome today confirmed miscarriage. It was just not meant to be 💔😢heartbreaking we will get our wish when the time is right ❤️❤️thinking of you at this very difficult time - time is a healer and hopefully it gets easier for us both ❤️❤️

thank you, I am sorry to hear about your confirmation today as well. I hope you are okay and I will be thinking of you and sending positivity your way. It will be our turn soon 💕

oh no Taylor!😞 I’m so sorry to hear about that! I went through the same thing almost 3 years ago you need someone to talk to don’t hesitate to text me🤍 bc I know it’s a hard time for you rn

so sorry for your loss!! Just got my confirmation of my chemical pregnancy today. 😔 I hope your feeling a little better (bleeding and cramp wise) and pray we’ll soon have our happy baby news in the future! ♥️

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