Intimacy in the 3rd trimester? (Nipple play?)

I know sex is safe and okay during pregnancy for most of us unless advised otherwise however I keep seeing things that say nipple stimulation and sucking should be avoided as it could cause contractions and even induce labour?

I have pretty much lost my libido for this whole pregnancy, had sex twice so far and am 8 months and the last time I just wasn’t mentally in the same space as my partner, couldn’t relax, switch off and it felt incredibly different and not enjoyable at all!

Now I have 6 weeks left and my partner has expressed wanting to have sex at least one last time as it will be the last before we become parents and then after will have to be careful with timing and may be too exhausted.

I don’t want to be selfish since I know twice in 8 months is already pretty much nothing and my partner has been good enough to be patient and wait on me, even said last night I am going through changes hormonally and if I feel I can’t then don’t push it and she fully understands.

We are in a lesbian relationship and breast play is a big part of intimacy while having sex and I’m really confused if we have sex again in the coming weeks, are we meant to avoid sucking boobs or should we avoid that part because of contractions and labour?

I’m going to ask midwife tomorrow but am wondering your own experience in the lead up to labour and if you avoided certain parts all went the whole way and were fine?

Thanks in advance

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It’s okay! Just don’t overstimulate, be gentle and you’ll be okay x

thank you, I wonder the line between stimulate and overstimulate is drawn? I’m guessing you will feel when that time comes?

I think it depends on your body tbh, I had sex pretty much everyday of my pregnancy, especially in the last trimester and even the same day I was induced! I then went on to be induced with all methods over 5 days so if intimacy was meant to bring on labour it did not work for me lol I would say just go with how your body feels x

You’ll be fine, but may feel mild contractions (Braxton Hicks) with it. I get them after breastfeeding my 3 year old and after orgasms - anything that releases oxytocin. Your uterus will sensitise to oxytocin when you’re ready to give birth, in response to signals the baby sends to your body. Until they send those signals that they’re ready to be born, the amount of oxytocin released from nipple play/orgasm won’t be enough to suddenly start anything. Enjoy!

you will definitely feel what’s comfortable & what’s starting to get uncomfortable eg sucking to hard etc x

I know everybody and their bodies are different but for me when i was pregnant i did nipple stimulation and even collected my colostrum and i experience no contractions or anything. I'd say just take it slow and listen to your body.

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