Showering on your own with a newborn

How's everyone managing it? I've been trying to wait until my husband gets home but some days, like today, I'm covered in baby sick and pee, sweat and boobs have leaked loads. There must be a way... Put baby in a Dock a tot on bathroom floor (worried about steam)? Or take baby monitor in and leave LO in the Next to Me? Any tips would be amazing.

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Steam isn't bad for baby at all, I used to bring in the bouncer and have baby in that in bathroom while I showered. Or Moses basket just outside the door.
Or next to me with monitor is ok too, I had to do it with my twins because I'm notoving both of them when they're asleep when I am only going to be gone for 10mins.
It only gets more challenging as they get more mobile. I still don't know how to shower with my 17 month old around unless hubby is home or mum visits 🙄

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I just put her bouncer in the bathroom with me or the carrycot from her pushchair as sometimes the shower works as white noise! Guidelines are 15 mins in steam is the limit for babies but to be honest I didn’t manage this until she was about 5 weeks old 😅

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I just put her in the next to me in my bedroom whilst I’m having a shower, I have to have one first thing every day with the night sweats!

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I put her in a moses basket and put her in the doorway of the bathroom so I can see her. I normally have a really speedy body wash shower and wash my hair when my partner is home as that takes longer

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i put baby to sleep in crib after a nappy change and feed. That way i have 2-3 hrs of getting things done x

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Either have baby in the bathroom in a safe container (carrycot, bouncer, travel cot etc.) Or if I'm not washing my hair I shower baby with me.
My evenings are fun with a baby and toddler trying to get us all clean and dressed for bed😂 x

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how do you wash and hold baby...I've wanted to shower with baby but too worried x

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I leave her in the moses basket in my bedroom with the bathroom door open but i always wait to get showered and dressed once ive given her bottle and shes down for a nap cos i have a good 10 mins to power through it all 😂 and im a single mum so have to try and multi task!

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I can't say it's easy but I find a way😂 I use lush products so they're safe for baby and hold him with one hand swapping sides when needed. I'm still showering twice a day after C-section though so only needing a quick wash. When I'm able to bend a bit better I'll have him in his bath seat while i shower, I did that with my first.
Be prepared for poos and wees all over you too🙈😂 x

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I take bubba in the bathroom in her rocking chair and she sits next to bath and I talk or sing to her x

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I live in a flat so he sits in the pushchair with the bathroom door open don't can see him aha

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Wait for her to sleep and then shower pr stick her in the bouncer in view of the shower, even if she cries you know she's safe x

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I bring him in his moses basket if i absolutely have to (without stand) and let him just chill next to the bath with the window open cuz i have it very hot😂

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I have the windows open wide so that I don’t get steam and have my baby in the Moses basket or occasionally the car seat

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Steam is totally fine for baby to be in. My gp actually advised me to have the baby in shower steam as she is currently congested so this will help. I put her in her bouncer if she is awake in the shower room with me. Or if she is asleep I put her in her next to me crib in my bedroom in the next room. I tend to have quick showers anyway I’m normally in and out within 5 mins as I’m paranoid leaving her lol x

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Put her in a bouncer or next to me?

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Put your baby down somewhere safe and go and quickly shower!! Even if it’s just a quick body wash and not your hair. Doesn’t make you a bad mum for putting them in their crib for 5 mins or even taking the bouncer or even laying them on the changing mat in the bathroom whilst you shower so you can keep an eye on them. The steam in the bathroom is actually good for them, especially if they’re a little congested too! As long as they’re somewhere safe, you’re absolutely fine to go and freshen up!

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We have a shower over the bath so I have a quick lukewarm sitting down shower with my baby lying on a bath seat next to me. She loves it and often we have a bath together afterwards with lots of skin to skin time and feeding in the bath which we really enjoys,

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do they not get cols in their athasat but not fully under the water? I had a section 6 weeks ago and last night was my 1st bath 💃 amazing! X

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I always put both of mine in bouncer in bathroom.
My daughter is 9months now and I let her play in bathroom on floor while I shower now xx

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can you clear your bathroom of anythign harmful and give them toys to play?
I did with my son. My daughter is 9months now and she plays on the floor while I shower xx

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@Kelly i love this! I'm dying for a bath so might steal this idea 😁

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@Karlie thats interesting, my LO is very congested too so good to know steam can actually help.

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@Liss that sounds so precious! I love this, we also have a shower over bath so might try this as it sounds like a nice bonding experience

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