8/12 Meet-up!

Next week we are going to be indoors (because it's HOT) at Bizzy Bee indoor playground near Northwoods Mall. There is an admission fee, but we hope to see you there!

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Nursery funded hours

Right so before I email the nursery and make a tit of myself can someone help me understand the following-

Currently scheduled to go back to work for 3 days, and little boy will be in nursery for 2 days (max 16 hours)

As per the new law you get 30 funded hours during term time ONLY - our nursery agrees to spread these hours through the year making it about 22.5 hrs a week (I think)

So if my boy goes for 3 days instead as work want me to poss go back 4 days…we will use 24 hrs do you think the nursery will charge us for just 1.5 hours or will they class the 3rd day as a full day?

Has anyone else experiences this please 😭🤣
If it’s not funded then there is no point in me going up to 4 days

Is there somebody else your child seeks comfort from?

I've been questioning my ability to be a good mother lately. Mine are 2 and almost 4. I feel that I'm doing my best for my kids, I might be a bit hard on them sometimes, like I wouldn't be an advocate for "gentle parenting" but I do give them love and empathy when they're upset. I have all the patience in the world for their tantrums and my partner and others will testify to that. However, when my partner or my own mother are an option instead of me, they'll call them and run to them instead of me for comforting. They do respond differently from me to their cries, but they also are very different from each other. My mother responds by emphasizing what they're crying about and practically crying with them, which my partner is very critical of. My partner on the other hand will say nothing but just pick them up and hug them then quickly redirect them. I try that method, but they only come to me if their dad or my mother isn't there.

Does anybody else's kids do this? Can anybody advise what I might be doing wrong?? I feel like my kids don't feel like I'm safe enough for them

Nursery

Can anyone please explain how to go about nursery registration? Do I go directly to nurseries near me or go through council? TIA

Just wanted to let this out!

I’m just fed up with him. .im happy with my baby but not in my relationship. This really sucks.
Trying so hard to make it work 🤦🏽‍♀️
I gotta stop.

Upset

So I’m making small goodie bags for fathers day. My husband been mentioning he wants to gift them a cologne, I told him it’s not necessary since I’m adding like 11 items in the bags. Well he just got home and I showed him the one I tried to make last night and he said “it’d look better if we add the cologne” I told him he’s getting annoying with that and walked away.
It upsets me because he wants to gift them something when he didn’t even get me anything for Mother’s Day. And yes I did tell him that yesterday, because I got mad and he got offended when I mentioned that.

I’m doing goodie bags because I want to do something small but special for they dads.

Food issue

My step-son lives with us half of the time and is very selective with his food (will only eat pasta, white rice, chicken nuggets etc.)
I have a toddler and I'm trying to give him as much variety in his diet in possible and encourage him to eat lotd of vegetables.
The issue is that when my step-son is with us, my toddler with immediately stop eating his food and point at my step-son's plate and usually won't eat any more of his. If we put a little bit of white rice or something on the side of his plate then he'll only eat that.
Having mealtimes together has been really important to us and I don't want to stop but I'm also so worried about my toddler picking up bad eating habits.
(My step-son wouldn't even eat his food if there's food he doesn't like on his plate).

What would you do?