Upset

So I’m making small goodie bags for fathers day. My husband been mentioning he wants to gift them a cologne, I told him it’s not necessary since I’m adding like 11 items in the bags. Well he just got home and I showed him the one I tried to make last night and he said “it’d look better if we add the cologne” I told him he’s getting annoying with that and walked away.
It upsets me because he wants to gift them something when he didn’t even get me anything for Mother’s Day. And yes I did tell him that yesterday, because I got mad and he got offended when I mentioned that.

I’m doing goodie bags because I want to do something small but special for they dads.

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Please help!

So my partner, 4 year old kiddo and I were having a movie. During the movie my partner starts doing math with kiddo and pulls his phone out to record the cuteness. Kifdo brcomes disregulated and starts hitting, punching and head butting me.

My partner asked him to stop once, ai tried to stop hom and when I couldn't I removed hom from my lap firmly, possibly to firmly because he ended up falling over.

It looked like I pushed him but I didn't.

My partner snapped at me that "I know he hit but there was no need to push him". I told him that he actually also punched and head butted me. I told him I didn't push him and I didn't mean to even make it look like I had.

My partner said "enjoy your movie" and walked out of the room.

Our kiddo said his bottom hurt so I opened my arms for a cuddle and he came over and we snuggled and apologised to each other and I was crying.

He then went to see my partner who kept asking if he was ok. He was and is perfectly fine.

I asked him to delete the video via text as he went straight back to his gaming desk and I came into the bedroom, and he hasn't responded.

I am angry at myself for reacring that way to our kiddo, I am frustrated and upset that he hurt me and I am upset that my partner doesn't seem to care.

How can I be a better mum to my kiddo? Or do I just have to walk away?

I hate myself, am miserable and don't even want look at my partner.

Do you think being a SAHM is considered hard work?

I got my hair done at this new salon and this older woman was doing my hair and asks what I do for work. I tell her I’m a stay at home mom and was talking about how stressed I’ve been and she goes, “why are you stressed if you don’t work?” And says “you shouldn’t be stressed if you don’t work. If you go to work and also take care of your child then you can be stressed”

Then I go to the nail salon and my nail girl asks what I do for work and I tell her I’m a stay at home mom. I tell her that my partner is from another country and culture is very 1950s house wife which I’m not common in my culture. And then I tell her it’s really difficult being treated a 1950s house wife & how my partner doesn’t help clean one thing and she goes, “well if you don’t have to go to work then it’s fair”

I just don’t understand why ppl don’t think being a stay at home mom is stressful and
not hard work. & I’m pretty sure the older woman who styled my hair has children so how could she say that. I’m not rich with a supportive husband and family with lots of strong female friends for support. I’m really struggling. 24/7

Baby led weaning food size

My baby is 12mo and I gave him a smash cake. Hes eaten lots of solid foods like scrambled eggs, sausage, ground beef, rice. I always cut it into small pieces and often times just add it to his purees. A couple times i gave him steak and a pickle spear to gnaw on. Ive has no issues before.

So today he took a big piece of his cake and shoved it in his mouth. I figured he'll spit it out if its too much. He started gagging and his face got red. He didnt panic or act upset at all. Cant remember if he made gagging sounds or not. After maybe 20-30sec(?), he threw up the cake and liquid. He still didnt act upset at all, maybe kinda like "wth?' He reached for me to pick him up from his highchair, then he reached down to eat some baby cheerios puffs he saw on the table 😆 and he was happy.

So is it okay that I let that happen? Or should I continue cutting his food up in smaller pieces? Was it correct that I just watched him gag on it until he threw up?

How often does your child see your in laws (advice please)

We recently moved a one minute walk from my husbands parents house. My husband insists our daughter (5mo) goes there every single day. I think that is ridiculous and I think 1 time a week is more than enough. If my mum lived next door we shouldn’t be going every day.
My MIL has upset my numerous times around things relating to my parenting and our daughter so I’m not comfortable with our baby being there without me ever.
How do I explain that daily is far too much and ridiculous. How are we supposed to have a healthy marriage and family unit if the only time we get as a family when he’s off work, he wants us to be at his mums?
We don’t get much time in the evening together either as I go to bed shortly after our daughter does. And he is up at 6 for work every day.

I’m also upset about it because it’s not fair my baby will see my mum once a month (distance) but he wants our baby to see his family daily? They aren’t more important than mine.

Screen time

I have a 3-month-old and so far I haven’t allowed any screen time, and I don’t plan to introduce it anytime soon.

That said, I know there are some educational and low-stimulation programmes for older children, and I don’t want her to miss out on anything that could benefit her speech or learning. At the same time, I really don’t want her to become dependent on screens or develop behaviour issues because of too much screen time.

For those with older little ones, when did you introduce screen time? Did you choose certain programmes or set limits? I’d love to hear what worked for your family and whether you felt it had any positive (or negative) impacts

Am I too petty?

I have been with my partner 4 years and older kids with my ex husband of 10 years an younger kids to him. Every birthday, christmas, valentines, mothers day, anniversary theres been some problem/excuse or he aint had no time or money to make no effort or get nothing (he has had tome and money as pointed out at the time) it didnt improve.. but this year it hit me because my son was crying saying sorry mummy I wanted to get you something but I couldnt ask my dad as his far away and "stepdad" said he didnt have time when I asked him last week so I got this card n we saved our change and got you your favourite cookies and I cried too I aint gonna lie as didnt think they notice as much as they do. It hurt that he hurt them through it.. so his fathers day I got some cute daddy teddy n some chocolate n dad socks nothing like expensive or really nice but from the kids.. hes been an arsehole today his dad coming over n I didnt get a good enough present for him ( some grandad gifts from the kids ) worse too my ex coming to get the older ones for the day but last min as thought he was coming next week so only had a card for him from the kids at this point..so I decide why should I? Like I booked a big table for all of us late a meal with his parents and got the grandad gifts.. not good enough and wrote a poem for his dad about grandad from the kids n framed it too.. so I got the "dad gifts" the bear the chocolates the socks n I gave my boys the older kids them n said give them to dad from you when he comes n all sign this card. Little boy made a card too n they did.. off they went all happy.. what he doesnt realise is theres no gifts for him and I have daddy cards and stepdad ones too but im not sure I should give them because I dont wanna be too petty here nut where was mine, birthday, valentines, christmas, anniversary like where was mine... his birthday soon too next month