Screen time

I have a 3-month-old and so far I haven’t allowed any screen time, and I don’t plan to introduce it anytime soon.

That said, I know there are some educational and low-stimulation programmes for older children, and I don’t want her to miss out on anything that could benefit her speech or learning. At the same time, I really don’t want her to become dependent on screens or develop behaviour issues because of too much screen time.

For those with older little ones, when did you introduce screen time? Did you choose certain programmes or set limits? I’d love to hear what worked for your family and whether you felt it had any positive (or negative) impacts

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Please help!

So my partner, 4 year old kiddo and I were having a movie. During the movie my partner starts doing math with kiddo and pulls his phone out to record the cuteness. Kifdo brcomes disregulated and starts hitting, punching and head butting me.

My partner asked him to stop once, ai tried to stop hom and when I couldn't I removed hom from my lap firmly, possibly to firmly because he ended up falling over.

It looked like I pushed him but I didn't.

My partner snapped at me that "I know he hit but there was no need to push him". I told him that he actually also punched and head butted me. I told him I didn't push him and I didn't mean to even make it look like I had.

My partner said "enjoy your movie" and walked out of the room.

Our kiddo said his bottom hurt so I opened my arms for a cuddle and he came over and we snuggled and apologised to each other and I was crying.

He then went to see my partner who kept asking if he was ok. He was and is perfectly fine.

I asked him to delete the video via text as he went straight back to his gaming desk and I came into the bedroom, and he hasn't responded.

I am angry at myself for reacring that way to our kiddo, I am frustrated and upset that he hurt me and I am upset that my partner doesn't seem to care.

How can I be a better mum to my kiddo? Or do I just have to walk away?

I hate myself, am miserable and don't even want look at my partner.

Do you think being a SAHM is considered hard work?

I got my hair done at this new salon and this older woman was doing my hair and asks what I do for work. I tell her I’m a stay at home mom and was talking about how stressed I’ve been and she goes, “why are you stressed if you don’t work?” And says “you shouldn’t be stressed if you don’t work. If you go to work and also take care of your child then you can be stressed”

Then I go to the nail salon and my nail girl asks what I do for work and I tell her I’m a stay at home mom. I tell her that my partner is from another country and culture is very 1950s house wife which I’m not common in my culture. And then I tell her it’s really difficult being treated a 1950s house wife & how my partner doesn’t help clean one thing and she goes, “well if you don’t have to go to work then it’s fair”

I just don’t understand why ppl don’t think being a stay at home mom is stressful and
not hard work. & I’m pretty sure the older woman who styled my hair has children so how could she say that. I’m not rich with a supportive husband and family with lots of strong female friends for support. I’m really struggling. 24/7

Baby led weaning food size

My baby is 12mo and I gave him a smash cake. Hes eaten lots of solid foods like scrambled eggs, sausage, ground beef, rice. I always cut it into small pieces and often times just add it to his purees. A couple times i gave him steak and a pickle spear to gnaw on. Ive has no issues before.

So today he took a big piece of his cake and shoved it in his mouth. I figured he'll spit it out if its too much. He started gagging and his face got red. He didnt panic or act upset at all. Cant remember if he made gagging sounds or not. After maybe 20-30sec(?), he threw up the cake and liquid. He still didnt act upset at all, maybe kinda like "wth?' He reached for me to pick him up from his highchair, then he reached down to eat some baby cheerios puffs he saw on the table 😆 and he was happy.

So is it okay that I let that happen? Or should I continue cutting his food up in smaller pieces? Was it correct that I just watched him gag on it until he threw up?

How often does your child see your in laws (advice please)

We recently moved a one minute walk from my husbands parents house. My husband insists our daughter (5mo) goes there every single day. I think that is ridiculous and I think 1 time a week is more than enough. If my mum lived next door we shouldn’t be going every day.
My MIL has upset my numerous times around things relating to my parenting and our daughter so I’m not comfortable with our baby being there without me ever.
How do I explain that daily is far too much and ridiculous. How are we supposed to have a healthy marriage and family unit if the only time we get as a family when he’s off work, he wants us to be at his mums?
We don’t get much time in the evening together either as I go to bed shortly after our daughter does. And he is up at 6 for work every day.

I’m also upset about it because it’s not fair my baby will see my mum once a month (distance) but he wants our baby to see his family daily? They aren’t more important than mine.

Pet hate- is it just my husband?

When I ask him to look after the baby so I can do any chores, he says oh il do it… and he thinks thats being helpful! The chores are the easy job after having the baby all day!
Doing my head in having to remind him all the time, so now I am pulling him up on it, saying why dont you want to be with the baby he gets really offended.

Need to rant

Tomorrow is my bfs first ever Father’s Day, someone in work has asked him to cover him on first call meaning he could get called into work for anything at any time some of these things can take several hours! My bf doesn’t like to say no so he’s said yes!! My problem is the bloke who has asked him has kids of his own so would’ve already had his first Father’s Day and he knows it’s my partners very first, I’m so fucking pissed off at the bloke who’s asked him because it’s his first 1, our boy is 4ms old

Am I overreacting? He told me yesterday and at first I was like “ok” but today it’s really playing in my mind and pissing me right off