How often does your child see your in laws (advice please)

My in laws live a similar distance and I see them once a week but my in laws both work and have really busy lives so if they weren’t so busy I would definitely be around more frequently.
My relationship with them is great but there’s definitely been times that things have been said to upset me but I just try to take it on the chin as I’m really grateful to have family support so close by and they really love my granddaughter

I feel it’s unrealistic to compare how much your baby sees your family to how much they see his family when they live a walk away and your family is at a distance. I understand wanting your baby around your family a lot but It doesn’t make his family more important, it makes them…. live down the road.

It seems like you guys need to have some talks about boundaries and things of that nature bc having someone that wants to be there to see and bond with your child on a regular shouldn’t be a bad thing. If they’ve been acting weird then see if it’s fixable and if not explain the lack of boundaries to hubby and he should understand.

They live hours and hours away. Once every couple of months.
My parents are closer, we maybe see them once every month/6 weeks. Sometimes more if there’s other stuff going on, birthdays or events etc.


Daily, for either of our parents, would be way too much for me. However, I don’t think you can compare it in fairness terms to how much relatives that are further away see your child. That’s not favouritism, it’s a matter of practicality.

My MIL lives across the street she comes over maybe once a week or every other week. Shes a very busy woman and has a sick husband so shes got her hands full but if my mom lived across the street we would probably see her daily. It just depends on the people and situations but if you dont like it daily definitely talk to your husband about it.

Our family live on another continent.

Tbh if my MIL lived down the road, I would love the help. I see mums struggling who wont accept help cause it’s not their mum and to me that’s silly. When we marry, it’s our family not his and mine. It’s not a competition which grandma sees them more, it’s a village to raise a kid.

I think it would be crazy if he wanted to spend hours over there every day. But popping by to say hi for 5 minutes seems like no big deal. I think family is important and beneficial to kids.

If my mom lived that close, I would 100% be there every day😅😅

I think the real issue is you are upset that his parents will see the baby more than your parents. And while it’s okay to be sad about this, I don’t think it’s a valid excuse

She doesn’t see my daughter frequently. Maybe every other 1-2 months. Her son doesn’t try and get her to visit so I don’t either. She never reaches out to come see my baby so I don’t bother.

I’d explain to your partner that you also need time to bond with your baby. And you don’t WANT to go over there daily and if he insists then insist he go see your family everyday after work with the baby and watch him think that’s ridiculous. You don’t need to see his family daily. You also don’t need to take your small baby to their house. If they want to visit have them come to you. She’s 5 mo so she doesn’t need to be packed up and taken anywhere regardless of the distance. Idk id tell my partner no and that would be it. Hopefully you can just tell him no as well and not have to deal with it