Bf cheated… opinion on his logic?

My boyfriend cheated many times, and I kept forgiving him and today I asked to see his phone and he said no and I said if he didn’t show me I’d leave. He refused, so I left. Now he’s freaking out because he thought he was calling my bluff but I said if he couldn’t show me his phone then I can’t trust him. He keeps calling begging me to come back saying he didn’t do anything wrong, but I told him he refused to be transparent when I needed clarity. He says I’m being dramatic and he just didn’t want us to turn into those couples who constantly check each others phone. I just want another opinion.

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You did good. Stick to what you told him.

Gaslighting much? 👀

He’s deflecting and trying to defend his “logic”. While yours is completely correct and logical for you to ask of someone who has previously been caught cheating.
My response would’ve been “we won’t need to be that couple if you are being a loyal proper boyfriend, but if you’re not an I find something I need to do keep checking on. It’s yet another consequence to YOUR CHOSEN actions as partner”

Ummm, you did great! Keep sticking to it xxxx

You did so well!!! Don't back down. He's definitely trying to manipulate you. I love response to send to him. He's the one that made this happen if he wants to be with you he needs to deal with the consequences to his actions.

Stick to your guns. He is testing the waters with you to see what he can get away with. This has nothing to do with being “one of those couples”. He made you one of those couples after he cheated.
I promise you he is either already doing it again or he’s working his way into it and thought he could manipulate you to leave his phone alone.

Why boyfriend when ex-boyfriend shaped? If you have a child together, you need to model a healthy relationship for your child. Your child deserves a good model and a happy mom.

Jfc never stay of he cheats more than once. You did the right thing. You deserve fidelity.

you go girl

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Please read!! I need an outsiders perspective. Am I being paranoid??

I picked up my daughter from nursery, and on the way home she pulled her pants down in public, turned around and showed me her anus by pulling apart her buttocks. I was shocked so snapped at her to pull her pants up. I apologised straight away and said I had just had a bad day a work. I then calmly asked who taught her to do that, and she said X. She has mentioned X many times before but I always assumed X was a child. So I asked is X a child or a teacher, and she said a teacher. I said is X a man or woman, she said woman. I said where did she teach you that and she said “in the bedroom”, and I said the nursery doesn’t have a bedroom, and she said “they do upstairs”. The nursery is in a large Victorian house, but I’ve never seen the rooms upstairs, so have no idea if this is true or not, but I don’t think nurseries have bedrooms?

Anyway, I said what else did X do and my daughter opened her mouth and stuck her tongue out and began licking her lips round and round. I’ve never seen her do something like that before. She then said X bounced her bum on her leg. I was kneeling down at the time to speak to her and she turned around and sat on one of my legs with her legs either side and bounced on my legs and said “like this”.

My daughter does tell lies, but not like this, this was really strange. She was getting annoyed with my questions so I stopped and called my partner. He phoned the manager straight away but it’s Friday so her phone was off and the nursery was closed, so he sent a message.

I can’t stop thinking about what she has said. I feel like I can’t put her back into that nursery until I find out why she is saying these things? Have your children ever said anything like this? I’m hoping someone says yes and this is all just some kind of mistake. Maybe it’s something strange children say and this is just me being too much and paranoid? What do you think?

Just a rant really

Today I made a passing comment to my partner regarding a bloke who come to measure up our garden doors to be replaced and said “it’s nice to see a man wearing a wedding ring cover to wear his ring in work” as I know from working with some men in the past they take it off if there’s woman around. More as a freshing thing to see if that makes sense and it come up mid argument it was more of a compliment to the bloke which tipped my partner over the edge saying “oh so we’re on different pages now dishing out compliments to people’ which I said no, I didn’t comment on his looks or that o wanted to sleep with the bloke but he just saw red and said I have to wreck things when they are going good and fuck things up even though I said it’s completely innocent and meant nothing behind it. And stop being such a fuck up. Obviously I know now to keep my mouth shut and I do have an awkward way of explaining things I always have done.
It’s now been 5 hours and he’s barely talked to me

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Looking for some advice. My LG is 16 months and has been going to nursery since she was 11 months old. She took a while to settle, does still cry going in but once she’s in, she has a good day.

However, recently they had an ofsted inspection, which resulted in the nursery manager leaving and them sending an email saying the result isn’t what they expected but official result hasn’t been published yet.

We have also moved so the journey to nursery is now 25 each way instead of 10, which isn’t a lot but I have to go back on myself after dropping her at nursery to get to work.

I don’t know whether to move her because she is settled and the staff are amazing with her.

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

Examples would be

The doctor
The hospital
Your children's school
Anything legal (like filing a police report)
Child care facilities and other child service providers

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Hi, I have a 4 week old baby boy and feel so lucky that he’s here. I feel guilty saying it, but the slow days are just not what I’m used to and I’m finding myself missing work and panic at the thought of so much time off. I’ve found myself in tears quite a few times, which I know sounds ridiculous. We’ve been going out on walks, visiting family etc, and I know we’ll do more and more as he gets a little older. Has anyone else felt this way, is it normal to miss things you did before baby?

Bf cheated… opinion on his logic?

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Please read!! I need an outsiders perspective. Am I being paranoid??

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Would you move nurseries?

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

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Bf cheated… opinion on his logic?