Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

Examples would be

The doctor
The hospital
Your children's school
Anything legal (like filing a police report)
Child care facilities and other child service providers

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Anytime I leave the house lol. No but seriously I don’t like wearing lounge clothes out of the house so like sweatpants or joggers or leggings. I’ll wear normal clothes when I leave the house.

But I’ll try a bit harder when like going to specific events or appointments

how you look says a lot about you and how you view yourself and people like people who take care of themselves

What you wear is a form of communication. Whether you consciously dress up or not you are letting the people around you know something.

I work for a prestigious university and always wear branded clothing to doctor appointments (for myself and the kids) so they think I’m smart 😅

hmmm yeah i think so to some extent. i dress presentable pretty much everywhere (in my opinion but maybe not others cuz i think leggings and stuff are presentable). i do avoid wearing anything “controversial” when i’m going somewhere where i’m in a vulnerable position (doctor, hospital, dentist, anything for my kid) because i do worry people might act maliciously because of my beliefs.

Not really

I don't, and I'm probably gonna sound a bit conceited, but I feel like I'm naturally pretty enough that I don't need to. But I also have a lot of low level maintenance that goes towards helping me look put together even in bamma mode. I have high contrast features, my skin is pretty decent most of the time. My clothes are mostly black, so all match. I keep my hair braided or in my bonnet at home so that when I take it down, it looks like I put more effort into it than I did.

The doctor is the big one for me. Getting chronic conditions taken seriously and treated appropriately is an uphill battle. ESPECIALLY with mental health treatment.

I try to look presentable all the time, is not easy with two small kids around , but I do it for myself and it makes me feel better...right now I don't have time to put a make up on, it something that I will do if I have an appointment with a doctor at least some touch of foundation that gives me a fresh look

I think looking “put together” for an appointment is respectful. I’m not talking about business casual, but a little make up and brush your hair.

A little mascara and a brush just go a long way. If your hair is greasy, put some dry shampoo in. That bothers me quite a bit too. Looks so dirty.

I can walk into a highschool still and not be questioned bc I pass as a student (done it once going to visit a teacher) so I feel like I have to be careful that I don't wear clothing too juvenile or put my hair certain ways that make me look young when I need to be respected and treated as an adult

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Please read!! I need an outsiders perspective. Am I being paranoid??

I picked up my daughter from nursery, and on the way home she pulled her pants down in public, turned around and showed me her anus by pulling apart her buttocks. I was shocked so snapped at her to pull her pants up. I apologised straight away and said I had just had a bad day a work. I then calmly asked who taught her to do that, and she said X. She has mentioned X many times before but I always assumed X was a child. So I asked is X a child or a teacher, and she said a teacher. I said is X a man or woman, she said woman. I said where did she teach you that and she said “in the bedroom”, and I said the nursery doesn’t have a bedroom, and she said “they do upstairs”. The nursery is in a large Victorian house, but I’ve never seen the rooms upstairs, so have no idea if this is true or not, but I don’t think nurseries have bedrooms?

Anyway, I said what else did X do and my daughter opened her mouth and stuck her tongue out and began licking her lips round and round. I’ve never seen her do something like that before. She then said X bounced her bum on her leg. I was kneeling down at the time to speak to her and she turned around and sat on one of my legs with her legs either side and bounced on my legs and said “like this”.

My daughter does tell lies, but not like this, this was really strange. She was getting annoyed with my questions so I stopped and called my partner. He phoned the manager straight away but it’s Friday so her phone was off and the nursery was closed, so he sent a message.

I can’t stop thinking about what she has said. I feel like I can’t put her back into that nursery until I find out why she is saying these things? Have your children ever said anything like this? I’m hoping someone says yes and this is all just some kind of mistake. Maybe it’s something strange children say and this is just me being too much and paranoid? What do you think?

Just a rant really

Today I made a passing comment to my partner regarding a bloke who come to measure up our garden doors to be replaced and said “it’s nice to see a man wearing a wedding ring cover to wear his ring in work” as I know from working with some men in the past they take it off if there’s woman around. More as a freshing thing to see if that makes sense and it come up mid argument it was more of a compliment to the bloke which tipped my partner over the edge saying “oh so we’re on different pages now dishing out compliments to people’ which I said no, I didn’t comment on his looks or that o wanted to sleep with the bloke but he just saw red and said I have to wreck things when they are going good and fuck things up even though I said it’s completely innocent and meant nothing behind it. And stop being such a fuck up. Obviously I know now to keep my mouth shut and I do have an awkward way of explaining things I always have done.
It’s now been 5 hours and he’s barely talked to me

Would you move nurseries?

Looking for some advice. My LG is 16 months and has been going to nursery since she was 11 months old. She took a while to settle, does still cry going in but once she’s in, she has a good day.

However, recently they had an ofsted inspection, which resulted in the nursery manager leaving and them sending an email saying the result isn’t what they expected but official result hasn’t been published yet.

We have also moved so the journey to nursery is now 25 each way instead of 10, which isn’t a lot but I have to go back on myself after dropping her at nursery to get to work.

I don’t know whether to move her because she is settled and the staff are amazing with her.

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

Examples would be

The doctor
The hospital
Your children's school
Anything legal (like filing a police report)
Child care facilities and other child service providers

Baby Blues??

Hi, I have a 4 week old baby boy and feel so lucky that he’s here. I feel guilty saying it, but the slow days are just not what I’m used to and I’m finding myself missing work and panic at the thought of so much time off. I’ve found myself in tears quite a few times, which I know sounds ridiculous. We’ve been going out on walks, visiting family etc, and I know we’ll do more and more as he gets a little older. Has anyone else felt this way, is it normal to miss things you did before baby?

In-laws!

In all honesty I’m over it all! Been with my partner for 14 years and I’m at breaking point! His family have stolen from me bullied my daughter when she was only 2 years old! Make fun of my miscarriages, copy everything I do with my kids that’s sentimental! Just a lot of fkd up shit and I’m expected to sit there all the time playing happy family! Like I don’t remember the last time we had a day just us and his kids coz his family have to tag a long every where we go! I legit can’t take it anymore I want to walk away but can’t because I do love him just not the baggage! ADVISE please!!!

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

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Please read!! I need an outsiders perspective. Am I being paranoid??

Just a rant really

Would you move nurseries?

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

Baby Blues??

In-laws!