Pet hate- is it just my husband?

When I ask him to look after the baby so I can do any chores, he says oh il do it… and he thinks thats being helpful! The chores are the easy job after having the baby all day!
Doing my head in having to remind him all the time, so now I am pulling him up on it, saying why dont you want to be with the baby he gets really offended.

in our community

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

Examples would be

The doctor
The hospital
Your children's school
Anything legal (like filing a police report)
Child care facilities and other child service providers

Bf cheated… opinion on his logic?

My boyfriend cheated many times, and I kept forgiving him and today I asked to see his phone and he said no and I said if he didn’t show me I’d leave. He refused, so I left. Now he’s freaking out because he thought he was calling my bluff but I said if he couldn’t show me his phone then I can’t trust him. He keeps calling begging me to come back saying he didn’t do anything wrong, but I told him he refused to be transparent when I needed clarity. He says I’m being dramatic and he just didn’t want us to turn into those couples who constantly check each others phone. I just want another opinion.

Baby Blues??

Hi, I have a 4 week old baby boy and feel so lucky that he’s here. I feel guilty saying it, but the slow days are just not what I’m used to and I’m finding myself missing work and panic at the thought of so much time off. I’ve found myself in tears quite a few times, which I know sounds ridiculous. We’ve been going out on walks, visiting family etc, and I know we’ll do more and more as he gets a little older. Has anyone else felt this way, is it normal to miss things you did before baby?

Is it worth it sending 4 year old to PreK if I am a SAHM?

I have a 5 month old so I do have my hands busy at home. Thinking of sending my LO to PreK for socialization and for the school experience. In laws are saying it’s a waste of money and to keep my child home until 5. What do you all think?

Need to rant

Tomorrow is my bfs first ever Father’s Day, someone in work has asked him to cover him on first call meaning he could get called into work for anything at any time some of these things can take several hours! My bf doesn’t like to say no so he’s said yes!! My problem is the bloke who has asked him has kids of his own so would’ve already had his first Father’s Day and he knows it’s my partners very first, I’m so fucking pissed off at the bloke who’s asked him because it’s his first 1, our boy is 4ms old

Am I overreacting? He told me yesterday and at first I was like “ok” but today it’s really playing in my mind and pissing me right off

Do you think being a SAHM is considered hard work?

I got my hair done at this new salon and this older woman was doing my hair and asks what I do for work. I tell her I’m a stay at home mom and was talking about how stressed I’ve been and she goes, “why are you stressed if you don’t work?” And says “you shouldn’t be stressed if you don’t work. If you go to work and also take care of your child then you can be stressed”

Then I go to the nail salon and my nail girl asks what I do for work and I tell her I’m a stay at home mom. I tell her that my partner is from another country and culture is very 1950s house wife which I’m not common in my culture. And then I tell her it’s really difficult being treated a 1950s house wife & how my partner doesn’t help clean one thing and she goes, “well if you don’t have to go to work then it’s fair”

I just don’t understand why ppl don’t think being a stay at home mom is stressful and
not hard work. & I’m pretty sure the older woman who styled my hair has children so how could she say that. I’m not rich with a supportive husband and family with lots of strong female friends for support. I’m really struggling. 24/7