Baby led weaning food size

My baby is 12mo and I gave him a smash cake. Hes eaten lots of solid foods like scrambled eggs, sausage, ground beef, rice. I always cut it into small pieces and often times just add it to his purees. A couple times i gave him steak and a pickle spear to gnaw on. Ive has no issues before.

So today he took a big piece of his cake and shoved it in his mouth. I figured he'll spit it out if its too much. He started gagging and his face got red. He didnt panic or act upset at all. Cant remember if he made gagging sounds or not. After maybe 20-30sec(?), he threw up the cake and liquid. He still didnt act upset at all, maybe kinda like "wth?' He reached for me to pick him up from his highchair, then he reached down to eat some baby cheerios puffs he saw on the table 😆 and he was happy.

So is it okay that I let that happen? Or should I continue cutting his food up in smaller pieces? Was it correct that I just watched him gag on it until he threw up?

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Please read!! I need an outsiders perspective. Am I being paranoid??

I picked up my daughter from nursery, and on the way home she pulled her pants down in public, turned around and showed me her anus by pulling apart her buttocks. I was shocked so snapped at her to pull her pants up. I apologised straight away and said I had just had a bad day a work. I then calmly asked who taught her to do that, and she said X. She has mentioned X many times before but I always assumed X was a child. So I asked is X a child or a teacher, and she said a teacher. I said is X a man or woman, she said woman. I said where did she teach you that and she said “in the bedroom”, and I said the nursery doesn’t have a bedroom, and she said “they do upstairs”. The nursery is in a large Victorian house, but I’ve never seen the rooms upstairs, so have no idea if this is true or not, but I don’t think nurseries have bedrooms?

Anyway, I said what else did X do and my daughter opened her mouth and stuck her tongue out and began licking her lips round and round. I’ve never seen her do something like that before. She then said X bounced her bum on her leg. I was kneeling down at the time to speak to her and she turned around and sat on one of my legs with her legs either side and bounced on my legs and said “like this”.

My daughter does tell lies, but not like this, this was really strange. She was getting annoyed with my questions so I stopped and called my partner. He phoned the manager straight away but it’s Friday so her phone was off and the nursery was closed, so he sent a message.

I can’t stop thinking about what she has said. I feel like I can’t put her back into that nursery until I find out why she is saying these things? Have your children ever said anything like this? I’m hoping someone says yes and this is all just some kind of mistake. Maybe it’s something strange children say and this is just me being too much and paranoid? What do you think?

Would you move nurseries?

Looking for some advice. My LG is 16 months and has been going to nursery since she was 11 months old. She took a while to settle, does still cry going in but once she’s in, she has a good day.

However, recently they had an ofsted inspection, which resulted in the nursery manager leaving and them sending an email saying the result isn’t what they expected but official result hasn’t been published yet.

We have also moved so the journey to nursery is now 25 each way instead of 10, which isn’t a lot but I have to go back on myself after dropping her at nursery to get to work.

I don’t know whether to move her because she is settled and the staff are amazing with her.

Have you ever felt you needed to dress up or alter your appearance in order to be taken seriously in something non job related?

Examples would be

The doctor
The hospital
Your children's school
Anything legal (like filing a police report)
Child care facilities and other child service providers

Baby Blues??

Hi, I have a 4 week old baby boy and feel so lucky that he’s here. I feel guilty saying it, but the slow days are just not what I’m used to and I’m finding myself missing work and panic at the thought of so much time off. I’ve found myself in tears quite a few times, which I know sounds ridiculous. We’ve been going out on walks, visiting family etc, and I know we’ll do more and more as he gets a little older. Has anyone else felt this way, is it normal to miss things you did before baby?

Bf cheated… opinion on his logic?

My boyfriend cheated many times, and I kept forgiving him and today I asked to see his phone and he said no and I said if he didn’t show me I’d leave. He refused, so I left. Now he’s freaking out because he thought he was calling my bluff but I said if he couldn’t show me his phone then I can’t trust him. He keeps calling begging me to come back saying he didn’t do anything wrong, but I told him he refused to be transparent when I needed clarity. He says I’m being dramatic and he just didn’t want us to turn into those couples who constantly check each others phone. I just want another opinion.

What do you think?

My son (3) is just such a happy boy, he genuinely loves life & when with his friends he runs around with him screaming, and just having fun. I get some people him screaming and running around may be annoying. But because he’s having fun and happy I never tell him to stop and be quiet, as I don’t want to dampen his shine.
Anyway yesterday I met my friend and everytime my son and friends daughter come together they’re wild (but in a nice way) and I heard my friend say to another friend ‘everytime my daughter is with him she’s always screaming and running around, I’m sick of it’ and I feel like deep down she must think my son is an issue!
So I confronted her and said I heard what you said and I’ll never tell my son to stop, he’s happy and this is why he’s expressing him self in such a way.
Am I wrong?