Am I too petty?

I have been with my partner 4 years and older kids with my ex husband of 10 years an younger kids to him. Every birthday, christmas, valentines, mothers day, anniversary theres been some problem/excuse or he aint had no time or money to make no effort or get nothing (he has had tome and money as pointed out at the time) it didnt improve.. but this year it hit me because my son was crying saying sorry mummy I wanted to get you something but I couldnt ask my dad as his far away and "stepdad" said he didnt have time when I asked him last week so I got this card n we saved our change and got you your favourite cookies and I cried too I aint gonna lie as didnt think they notice as much as they do. It hurt that he hurt them through it.. so his fathers day I got some cute daddy teddy n some chocolate n dad socks nothing like expensive or really nice but from the kids.. hes been an arsehole today his dad coming over n I didnt get a good enough present for him ( some grandad gifts from the kids ) worse too my ex coming to get the older ones for the day but last min as thought he was coming next week so only had a card for him from the kids at this point..so I decide why should I? Like I booked a big table for all of us late a meal with his parents and got the grandad gifts.. not good enough and wrote a poem for his dad about grandad from the kids n framed it too.. so I got the "dad gifts" the bear the chocolates the socks n I gave my boys the older kids them n said give them to dad from you when he comes n all sign this card. Little boy made a card too n they did.. off they went all happy.. what he doesnt realise is theres no gifts for him and I have daddy cards and stepdad ones too but im not sure I should give them because I dont wanna be too petty here nut where was mine, birthday, valentines, christmas, anniversary like where was mine... his birthday soon too next month

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Bf cheated… opinion on his logic?

My boyfriend cheated many times, and I kept forgiving him and today I asked to see his phone and he said no and I said if he didn’t show me I’d leave. He refused, so I left. Now he’s freaking out because he thought he was calling my bluff but I said if he couldn’t show me his phone then I can’t trust him. He keeps calling begging me to come back saying he didn’t do anything wrong, but I told him he refused to be transparent when I needed clarity. He says I’m being dramatic and he just didn’t want us to turn into those couples who constantly check each others phone. I just want another opinion.

Please help!

So my partner, 4 year old kiddo and I were having a movie. During the movie my partner starts doing math with kiddo and pulls his phone out to record the cuteness. Kifdo brcomes disregulated and starts hitting, punching and head butting me.

My partner asked him to stop once, ai tried to stop hom and when I couldn't I removed hom from my lap firmly, possibly to firmly because he ended up falling over.

It looked like I pushed him but I didn't.

My partner snapped at me that "I know he hit but there was no need to push him". I told him that he actually also punched and head butted me. I told him I didn't push him and I didn't mean to even make it look like I had.

My partner said "enjoy your movie" and walked out of the room.

Our kiddo said his bottom hurt so I opened my arms for a cuddle and he came over and we snuggled and apologised to each other and I was crying.

He then went to see my partner who kept asking if he was ok. He was and is perfectly fine.

I asked him to delete the video via text as he went straight back to his gaming desk and I came into the bedroom, and he hasn't responded.

I am angry at myself for reacring that way to our kiddo, I am frustrated and upset that he hurt me and I am upset that my partner doesn't seem to care.

How can I be a better mum to my kiddo? Or do I just have to walk away?

I hate myself, am miserable and don't even want look at my partner.

Do you think being a SAHM is considered hard work?

I got my hair done at this new salon and this older woman was doing my hair and asks what I do for work. I tell her I’m a stay at home mom and was talking about how stressed I’ve been and she goes, “why are you stressed if you don’t work?” And says “you shouldn’t be stressed if you don’t work. If you go to work and also take care of your child then you can be stressed”

Then I go to the nail salon and my nail girl asks what I do for work and I tell her I’m a stay at home mom. I tell her that my partner is from another country and culture is very 1950s house wife which I’m not common in my culture. And then I tell her it’s really difficult being treated a 1950s house wife & how my partner doesn’t help clean one thing and she goes, “well if you don’t have to go to work then it’s fair”

I just don’t understand why ppl don’t think being a stay at home mom is stressful and
not hard work. & I’m pretty sure the older woman who styled my hair has children so how could she say that. I’m not rich with a supportive husband and family with lots of strong female friends for support. I’m really struggling. 24/7

Baby led weaning food size

My baby is 12mo and I gave him a smash cake. Hes eaten lots of solid foods like scrambled eggs, sausage, ground beef, rice. I always cut it into small pieces and often times just add it to his purees. A couple times i gave him steak and a pickle spear to gnaw on. Ive has no issues before.

So today he took a big piece of his cake and shoved it in his mouth. I figured he'll spit it out if its too much. He started gagging and his face got red. He didnt panic or act upset at all. Cant remember if he made gagging sounds or not. After maybe 20-30sec(?), he threw up the cake and liquid. He still didnt act upset at all, maybe kinda like "wth?' He reached for me to pick him up from his highchair, then he reached down to eat some baby cheerios puffs he saw on the table 😆 and he was happy.

So is it okay that I let that happen? Or should I continue cutting his food up in smaller pieces? Was it correct that I just watched him gag on it until he threw up?

Pet hate- is it just my husband?

When I ask him to look after the baby so I can do any chores, he says oh il do it… and he thinks thats being helpful! The chores are the easy job after having the baby all day!
Doing my head in having to remind him all the time, so now I am pulling him up on it, saying why dont you want to be with the baby he gets really offended.

Need to rant

Tomorrow is my bfs first ever Father’s Day, someone in work has asked him to cover him on first call meaning he could get called into work for anything at any time some of these things can take several hours! My bf doesn’t like to say no so he’s said yes!! My problem is the bloke who has asked him has kids of his own so would’ve already had his first Father’s Day and he knows it’s my partners very first, I’m so fucking pissed off at the bloke who’s asked him because it’s his first 1, our boy is 4ms old

Am I overreacting? He told me yesterday and at first I was like “ok” but today it’s really playing in my mind and pissing me right off