TW: Miscarriage

Has anyone who experienced a miscarriage still get severe panic attacks when they think they are pregnant?

I recently have been feeling off and I’ve been showing tons of signs I’m pregnant (or could be starting my period) and just thinking about having to take the test gives me the worst panic attacks.

I want children still but I don’t know how to over come this feeling of dread when I have to look at the test.

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Hi Samantha. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this. It can be normal after a miscarriage to be anxious about a new pregnancy. Have you sought any advice at all yet?

Very valid to feel like that. I had a chemical several cycles ago and everytime I spot (which I do even at the beginning of my AF), I get so triggered and sad.

I feel like unfortunately with my desperate need to have another child (I am lucky enough to have one) the only way is through.

When I had bad postpartum ocd the first time the only way I got better was by facing my daughter (I had obsessive intrusive thoughts that she was going to be harmed, sometimes by me). The thing that helped the most was doing what triggered me the most. I needed a support foundation though. I had a mother ready to pick up the phone at any minute, a great psychologist who prescribed me meds to help, and a therapist.

Do you have the ability to give yourself any of these extra supports?

I haven’t yet.. it’s kinda why I came in here to ask if anyone else has felt what I’m going through and maybe get some tips and tricks on helping heal after that major loss. It hasn’t even been a year yet…

my family is very supportive of me and how I’m feeling about this my husband is the most amazing man and always tries to help me calm down but once an intrusive thought is there it’s like it doesn’t go away for a long time..

I have. It could be that you have some form of PTSD which can happen after miscarriage. Definitely get advice x

@Samantha Fetterman that is so brutal. Yep the obsessive nature of intrusive thoughts is where I cycle. I get stuck and spiral on one thing all day sometimes. You are not alone. And I am so happy you have some of the supports you do 💗

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