Anxiety about partner going back to work

I’m exactly the same. He works 12 hour days too so I’ll have to manage the days and nights. Dreading it

thinking about you and I’m sorry you’re feeling this way too xx

I have been similar on a few days, now 14days pp. We have been trying to build me up to it by my partner either going out for a couple of hours or shutting himself in a room so i can't just ask him for help. We started small, 1/2hr while baby was sleeping and increased length of time and awake times to build my confidence. My partner will usually go work on the garden using power tools or play computer games with headphones in (that way he doesn't try to instantly come help if he hears baby crying, he waits for me to call it quits). It has been helping me so far as I've realised I can do most of the things without him, its just easier and quicker with 4 hands instead of 2. I think day 8-12 feels the worst on average because your hormones are starting to rebalanced and send everything out of whack for a few days until you get ontop of it again.

You are stronger than you give yourself credit for :) xx

thank you Hattie for your response, I will try the same as you and go solo for slots of the day. I know hormones are playing havoc (and recovery is still in play), but it feels so real!!

Thank you for your vote of confidence. I know I will be ok when he goes back, it just doesn’t feel like it right now 🥹🥹 xxx

This was me a couple of weeks ago. I just needed for it to happen. The anxiety was worse than reality. Partner is super supportive so when he comes back, he has baby (which is a win for everyone) and I cook dinner with my hands baby free! We've made a little routine in the evenings that, at the moment, works for us. I hope it goes better than you imagine for you too x

My partner goes back on Monday after 5 weeks off. I think we need to be kind to ourselves that we aren’t going to have the house spotless and are just getting through the day to begin. I live 2 hrs away from family/friends so I share your loneliness worry. I’ve joined a couple of baby groups just to get out even though I don’t necessarily want to go to them , for something to do

Thanks :) I had a c section too so I won’t be able to drive etc which I think is stressing me the most as he’s been so helpful and doing so much for me too

I felt like this. My husband went back to work on Tuesday so I asked my mum to come down (she lives 2 hours away) for a couple of days, to ease myself into being without my husband. Thankfully, she and my husband get on well. Today was the first day I was completely by myself and I just made sure I was busy out of the house, library, park, coffee, walk by the river. My husband doesn’t work that far away either so we took him some lunch and he got to spend some time with our little one. He’s really struggled with going back to work too and leaving us.
We also made plans to do something lovely at the weekend to give us something to look forward to!

Yeah I'm 9 days pp and sooo anxious, my husband is self employed and regularly works away from home for up to 10days at a time so I will be fully alone days and nights 😬 trying to build up time alone with baby whilst he goes out with the dog, or to the shops. Hoping that the reality is not as bad as I'm anticipating!! I'm sure we will all learn to cope. But might be a steep learning curve to begin with I guess! Try not to put too much pressure on yourself :)

I was literally this yesterday, cried all afternoon every time I thought about my husband going back to work next week. Now I've let it all out I feel much better but I also have a few things planned with friends and my mum next week to help break up the days and give me something to get on with instead of becoming stuck I'm bed unsure what to do apart from feed and nap 🙃

My husband is going back to work on Monday after 4 weeks off. Also dreading it as he is so hands on that I am not sure how I will cope but I know I will as I haven’t got any choice, it’s so reassuring to know that I’m not alone.