Please be sensitive and direct as I am about to be extremely vulnerable here. Please tell me what you would do 😔

Leave , putting your hands on me is a deal breaker.. I’m sorry, you do it once you’ll do it again! It’s NO REASON a grown man had the audacity to put his hands on you.. you want your daughter to grow up in a toxic household watching dysfunction or you want her in a co parenting home. Some stuff you just have to draw the line

It’s not okay for him to put his hands on you. I’m sorry that happened to you.

Leave everything that has to do w his daughter up to him 🤷🏿‍♀️

Don’t do anything.. she’ll notice the change and when she comes to you for things refer her to her father w EVERYTHING.
if he wants an explanation on why you don’t do anything for his daughter anymore refer back to this day, save this date in your mind

Also i think he may have been irate behind his daughter and trying to stand up and protect her,

I myself get very crazy over my children

Nope. Soon as a man puts hands on you, you leave. Period.

Leave. I’d rather my kids grow up in a healthy environment than an abusive one.

These are two different concerns

Call the cops and report the incident immediately if you haven’t already

Teenagers can be extremely disrespectful regardless of who their biological parents are, I would of suggested therapy if there was no physical altercation

But hitting you while you were holding a 1 year old?

Has this happened before?

A man, let alone a father to a teenage daughter should NOT put his hands on a women. That is only showing her what to accept from the men in her life. Sometimes children are better off with divorced parents who are cordial rather then married parents who are abusive, aggressive or not stable in their relationship. Putting his hands on you should be the last straw. & his daughter not respecting you is his fault for not establishing you as the closest mother figure to that little girl. Which tells me that he doesn’t respect you as his partner. Love yourself and your little girl and leave that household !

I think before she plays psychological games with a teenager, it’s better she leaves the relationship and home.

As an adult it’s her job to deescalate chaos…. Not join it

please don’t mention me
I gave her advice, because she said she doesn’t want to leave..
thank you have a nice day

Thank you everyone for all the advice. I have alot to think about 😔 to be honest I feel stuck. I'm a SAHM, barely any money to my name, and have been actively looking for stay at home work or something to be able to leave 😔 I keep going in circles in my mind and just keeping it together for my baby.

@Nat no this is the first time 🙁

@Becky that last part. I don't want my daughter growing up thinking this is okay 😕

@oshanique yeah so far I've been keeping my distance with her and she's been answering to her father. I'm not sure if she's purposely trying to get us apart. Idk. So so so many things going through my mind. I still cannot believe this happened

@Mirra so true I don't want her growing up in a dysfunctional home. I wish I wasn't a sahm mom and had the money to up and leave. Lord knows.

@incognito They will both miss your motherly presence, w/o you leaving, give it time ..
or you can physically leave temporarily
And the motherly presence will be missed that way as well

Report him and then leave him. That abuse may very well trickle down to your own daughter one day. You wouldn’t be letting her down by leaving, but you very well may be letting her down by staying. Exposure to domestic violence is cause for removal by CPS. Protect her and protect yourself. It’s hard to leave, but if there is a will there is a way. You’ve got this. 🤍

your welcome to block me.

This is social media, and I am able to @ anyone in a thread.

Again playing games with a 14 year old seems like just joining the chaos. The father is the obvious person that needs to be addressed, especially since he laid hands on her.

and will nobody is about to argue about their opinion

Leave. If he'd hit you, neither you or baby are in a safe home.

It's not broken homes that are bad, it's toxic environments

Leave

@Hannah wow thank you 💜💜

Oh man I need help too! Im kinda going through something similar but it's my son and my youngest dad. To add MIL oks it and maybe even persuade it. I'm feeling stuck to choose sides between my child or my bd. I can see were both sides come from but on the same note I have to stay more loyal to my son . Regardless if he was in the wrong. And I'm absolutely broken having to juggle the two I love so much. I'm mad at him for even letting things get this far. But also want to teach him some respect. A 13 year old shouldnt be oked to call a grown man a bitch. That's not ok. But since MIL thinks it's funny and said to do it then I'm the bad guy for calling everyone out on their BS.

I would deffo leave. I feel like once a guy hits you once, they think they can always do it. Plus you don’t want your little one thinking getting hit is the norm

It doesn’t matter what the argument was about.

You need to leave, it will escalate. Might take a while but it WILL.

The whole thing about him hitting you and then taking your baby away after you hit him so that you could “relax” is terrible manipulation and blame shifting.