“Baby Rules”

Glad someone said it 🙈😆
Same - maybe we’ve just got good people in our lives who respect the basics 🤷‍♀️

My only request is if you're one of child care people (my parents and my sister) that if you're comfortable getting the TDap you do. But that's it. I too feel the posting or mailing out of the rules is a bit much. But everyone's situation is different. So

I have people in my life (family, not friends) that seriously lack boundaries and common sense. I will not post them publicly or mail them, but I definitely have rules if you're going to be around and especially touching my baby. It's already bad enough that when I come around they go straight to touching on and kissing on my belly without so much as saying hi to me first much less asking to touch me. 🤦‍♀️🙄

I love the way you phrase it, I find it very respectful “if you feel comfortable”. It’s not rude at the slightest and comes off very genuine and kind hearted. Some of the “rules” I see people posting come off as power trips and cry’s for attention, but I agree every situation is different, we never know what’s going on in someone’s life.

I feel really lucky ❤️💕

absolutely they are so OTT and ridiculous are u in the usa? As it seems to be an American thing

Me too tbh! We didn’t have to stress over people turning up unannounced after my LG was born, everyone gave us our space for my partners paternity leave and everyone’s been amazing since she was born when they have met her 💜

But you said you already have rules of not making out with your baby and to sanitise hands. If people crossed those boundaries would you say something?

lol ummm I personally have never kissed a baby that wasn’t mine (I highly doubt anyone I know would, maybe grandparents 🤷‍♀️) if someone made out with my baby we’d have bigger issues than I care to go into here. As for sanitizer, I’d assume if they aren’t using one that’s near baby that their hands are clean, either they washed them or they used their own sanitizer. Either way the people that are coming over love me and my baby and I trust them with the basics. For those in my life, I just want people to enjoy spending time with loved ones. I’m not creating unnecessary drama ahead of time by sending out rules, but yes to answer your questions I think most moms would say something. ❤️💕good luck mama.

yes guilty- USA! 🤣

@Amanda I totally get where you're coming from. My family is good because they know me and raised me, so they know what I'm like. My husband's side is mostly good too.

But my MIL is very animated, touchy feely, and does not always listen about boundaries. I definitely had to set them with her early in my first pregnancy. She basically made a comment over the phone on how she's gonna touch all over me and rub my belly, I said no, and she followed that by telling me to hush and she was going to do it anyway. That was quickly reinforced by not seeing them for a while. Besides the fact that I'm not into people who aren't my husband touching me, I'm on the spectrum, my morning sickness was also extremely bad at this time. Any slight pressure on my stomach made me want to throw up. So I just wasn't having it. 🙃

It was all good after that though.

I haven't posted baby rules or sent them out to anyone, but something that should be common sense and sounds basic is not always respected by people.

For me, I had to start placing boundaries once baby was born because until I saw things happen, I thought everyone would just know certain things.

I never thought I'd have to tell people to wash their hands before touching baby, but I've had to do it when I saw their hands were full of food, or i just saw them scratching feet, and people have straight up told me no. "It's fine, I don't need to wash my hands. Just gimme the baby"

I was shocked by someone who visited and when we told them baby was asleep, they replied "no problem, I'll just go wake baby up". Uh no, don't purposely go wake up my newborn

Someone got mad at me when they showed up at 9am unannounced and we didn't open the door because we were sleeping. How would we know someone is at the door. You'd think it's obvious not to show up to see a newborn like that but "you have a baby now. I thought you'd be awake at that time"

You think it would be obvious not to eat a baby's face with kisses, you'd think other moms would know (but that's up to them). When i asked them not to kiss my baby's face, I got "so I can't kiss him?? But I'm family" germs don't work that way but ok.

I had to go through it and then realized that I'm going to need to establish boundaries.

Unfortunately some people are just like that. I think some people already know, before the baby is even born, what people will be like so they set rules early.

"Power tripping" is weird when people are just trying to love baby, but it needs to be reasonable. Some people have it so much worse than me. I've seen posts where people are holding baby and smoking at the same time. "Don't push me away from your baby" how about you don't smoke around my baby?

People never fail to amaze me, every family/situation is different. It’s just shocking to me that people feel they have to address it in the manner it’s been portrayed in this app. I’m all about respect luckily those closest to me are too and it goes both ways. As for my MIL, as far as I’m concerned, she helped raise the most amazing human in the world if she wants to make out with me or my baby by all means, have at it! She did something right by raising my hubby.