There are girls everywhere!

Ok how do you handle the fact that you can’t do anything without half naked girls being everywhere?
Movies, music videos, TikTok, Facebook, instagram… I know it’s inevitable but it sucks. I have always been insecure of my body but even more now that I had my third baby. I can’t help but squirm when my bf and I are watching a movie and there’s a dirty scene. He tells me I’m beautiful and tells me he loves my body but I’m not dumb, I’m sure he’s not scrolling right past a girl doing a dance in a bikini on TikTok so how do I just be ok with it.

Side note: my ex used to tell me how gross I was and how he had to watch porn just to have sex with me because of my body so when it comes to porn and stuff I guess I’m just broken lbvs

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Ugh idk but I hate it aswell, so hard to feel secure when all these attractive when with “perfect” bodies and half naked everywhere you look. So sorry ur feeling like this but you are beautiful no matter what

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that was well said. Thank you for that. You’re right I do need to work on not being insecure which mainly involves me losing my post pregnancy belly and then I’m sure I’ll feel a lot better

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He’s with you for a reason, if he wanted someone else he’d be with them. He clearly loves you, I struggle to but I know that if he didn’t like my body he wouldn’t be with me. Also our body’s change especially after children but you’ve bought 3 whole life’s into this world that’s an amazing thing to do!!! Don’t be so hard on yourself🩵

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I hate it aswell, my partner tells me everyday how beautiful I am and can't keep his hands off me and stuff but I know he ain't searching "pale, chubby mum with stretch marks and greasy hair" on porn 🤣

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