What a week!! 🥹💙

Ruth, you are a fantastic mum. You don't need to get approval from health visitors in regards to what cups you use etc. You do what you like with your boy 💙

I’ve had a week too! Maxi absolutely smashed preschool on Tuesday didn’t bat an eyelid when he couldn’t see played independently too, Thursday he had first full day with the childminder and absolutely smashed that but was super clingy when he got home (to be expected) yesterday was hell on earth he was back at preschool with me in the morning and he was a devil/ pushing kids over, knocked down the fence twice, had a tantrum every time I moved, was starving but wouldn’t eat without me so we all had to swap jobs, when the other parents we’re collecting he was sat screaming and hitting me with a toy car whilst I was trying to chat to the parents and feed back about their child’s day! I left work hot sweaty and in tears, thank goodness daddy was working from home and he sat having lunch with maxi whilst I had 10 mins to myself! I know it’s all a hug transition for him but it’s been hard!

As a practitioner and parent I’d say the best thing for you and Oliver is to drop and go…

He’s going to settle much quicker without you and he knows you’ll come back! Had to do it with one of my new children this week and it definitely made it easier mum just leaving! I know it’s hard but trust the staff they will look after him x

agreed maxi doesn’t have a bottle but that’s cos he’s a weird kid 😂 my older 2 still had bottles at this age and it not affected their teeth or speech or anything! Use the damn bottle xx

Thanks so much girls 🥹💙 honestly wish you both didn't live miles away, you have the best advice and just simply amazing!! Made a boy mama feel so much better 🥰

poor maxi 🥰 crazy how we think one amazing day with them is going to be like that all the time 🤣 calm before the storm !! 💙

he’s testing the boundaries seeing if the other staff are going to say the same as mummy! I’m lucky that the ladies I work with are great and the could tell I was overwhelmed so they took maxi and let me escape to tidy the garden and he was absolutely fine! I go on holiday on the 18th and I think it’s going to be good for maxi and me cos honestly I feel like he might was well crawl back inside me so we can be close allllll the time 😂😂 also the mum guilts always going to be there no matter what so just accept that it’s crap and tomorrow you’ll feel guilty about something else 🤦‍♀️😂

thanks lovely 🥰 yeah going to attempt to leave for longer next Tues and wed. Xx

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Effie still has a bottle and a dummy for bed. She still has formula too- due to her allergies. The HV hasn’t mentioned any issues with it, ( she actually wrote to the gp to get him to continue to prescribe the formula after she was 2) I generally think it depends which HV you have sometimes.
As a early years teacher I was always worried about making sure the children had good speech but Effie has fantastic speech and the bottle hasn’t caused any issues. Do what you feel is right.
And I agree with the others, drop and go- best way forward. They all eventually adjust to nursery/preschool. By the time they go to big school they love it.

thank you 🥰
She didn't really say anything about bottle, just gave "the look" 🤣 then eventually said well they will end up going in the bin eventually so will have to be cup. I will only do that once he's taken to the cup. (haven't tried again yet 🤣) xx

yepppp I dread the day daddy takes him out for his first beer 😬🤣
Thank you so much lovely xx

Lily still has milk in a bottle, she still loves her milk and won’t drink it from a cup either so I don’t care what the HV says about that, she’s my child, she can drink from a cup, straw etc but she just prefers her milk in her bottle still.
We also struggle with boundaries and emotions with Lily, it’s so difficult but your doing amazing 💕

thanks so much lovely , you are too!! I actually put Olivers milk in a juice bottle this morning. He looked at me like "WTF MAM?" 🤣 But drank it all . Might have helped the fact that he could still see his milk haha. Only downfall is it drips more than milk bottle so need to watch for tiny spills. I didn't dare try change the bottle for bed time , that can wait for another day 🤣🤣 xx

I might start doing that with Lily’s morning milk too as she has it at breakfast so makes sense haha. I’m defo sticking with the night time bottle though as I think she knows it’s bedtime when she has her milk in the bottle and I cba for the meltdowns 😂 1 step at a time ay haha xx