Questioning myself

Do you swaddle her? Reflexes can wake them up and swaddling prevents that. Her crying all of the time does not mean you're a bad mother - babies cry to communicate that they need or want something. My daughter is almost 6 weeks and cries plenty and it's turned into a game of figuring out what she wants aside from being changed, held and to be fed (the list of things keeps on adding). You can contact the pediatrician and hopefully they can tell if she's colicky or not! It's a struggle but I'm positive you're doing amazing. Keep doing your best which is going to be different each day 💖

Try swaddling! If she doesn’t like a traditional swaddle try a swaddle sack. My babe likes his arms by his face but he kept hitting himself and waking up so the swaddle sack was perfect. It’s really not you! Sometimes babies just have bad days and cry! I second checking with the pediatrician on the colic. I also use a baby massage oil and give a little massage every night before I put him in the swaddle sack and he stays on his back! He’s six weeks and loves it. But every baby is diff so keep trying different things until something sticks!

she hates being swaddled, she will literally try to break out and start crying because she feels her hands aren’t free but when they are free they wake her. It’s a losing battle

which swaddle sack do you use, we just tried zen sack with her and it didn’t work.

We also use swaddle sacks on her - mostly because the swaddles we have are huge and she wiggles out of them fast! We have three SwaddleMe ones (husbands favorite) and one halo innovations one. We will wait until she's sleeping mostly before we put her in but lately she'll want to be swaddled (one of her new reasons for crying lol).

SwaddleDesigns Transitional Swaddle Sack with Arms Up Half-Length Sleeves and Mitten Cuffs, Tiny Hedgehogs, Medium, 3-6mo, 14-21 lbs (Better Sleep for Baby Boys, Baby Girls, Easy Swaddle Transition) https://a.co/d/gQUiAtp

These are the ones we used. He didn’t like the ones that kept his arms in super close to his body. These his arms are up by his face so he can wiggle them but they don’t hit him in the face.

It’s definitely hard. I usually go thru list. Is she fed. Change diaper.burp baby. Do bicycles on legs to try to release gas. Rock baby. - when I still can’t get her to calm down I give her to my husband or mom and they just rock and hold her and that usually works. I have no idea why. Maybe because I’m too stressed sometimes . If you have someone that could help you for 15-20 minutes. To calm baby - hold baby or give you a small break try that. Good luck!!

I will definitely give it a try, thank you so much.

My son hated the swaddle at 1st, but when we get him calm right before he falls asleep, we've been putting him in a thin stretchy swaddle and he stays asleep for awhile. He likes his hands above his head when he sleeps too but he gets the startle reflex and wakes himself up. They're constantly changing and figuring out what they want it's exhausting keeping up. Take it day by day, it doesn't last forever and you're the best person for the job at being their mom ❤️

thank you so much, she breaks out of her swaddle and starts fighting when she notices she’s in one