Mum's with Autism and mum's with children with autism

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I have a step daughter who is coming 3 in a few weeks. I’ve had her full time with her dad since she was 1. When we got her I noticed signs of autism and currently we are on the paediatric waiting list as the doctors and developmental unit thinks so too. She’s still non verbal, just babbles like a 6 month old, she won’t play with toys, just destroys the house to the point where she turns the switches to everything off on in the fuse box.

I’ve been struggling with her 7 days a week while having a young son under 6 months. I worked to get her into a pre school so I had two hours a day where I wasn’t the only one responsible for her. As awful as it sounds I’ve been struggling with her big time. They accepted her when I told them she was non verbal and still in nappies (we have tried potty training 3 times). They accepted her, we got her uniform, we went on the first two days she loved it. The third day I was pulled into the office and told she couldn’t stay until she was potty trained or we had a diagnosis? I don’t understand why they offered her a place whenever I told them she was like this? Potty training for the 4th time is going no where she hurts me because she doesn’t understand what I’m trying to tell her about the potty and for the diagnosis, in the uk it takes years and we are only on a waiting list. My heart is broke for her and for my sanity. I’m so upset and I just don’t know what to do anymore.

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My husband cooks on many stoves at once on high flame - we have a small house with no exhaust fans - so it tends to result in lots of smoke in the house , the fire alarm going off many times and also me and our 2 year old som coughing and also our 2 year old old son’s room overheating as it’s directly above the kitchen

My husband likes to get in and out of thr kitchen as fast as possible - if you see him cooking - it looks like he’s in a rush (but that’s just how he operates , nobody is rushing him)

Anyways this is something I’ve spoken to him about multiple times and even in the current moment if we’re coughing he says he cant turn the stove down or turn off anything because certain foods (like the way he prepares salmon or steak has to be on a high flame. )

I’m just trying to figure out how to survive this because I dread most times when he prepares dinner (which is mostly Sundays ) - I’ve started planning to be away with friends that time but that’s not always sustainable - but trying to see what else I could do in the interim.

I will remind him to keep stoves as low as possible , or ask not to use so many burners at the same time

I’ll ask him to open windows (our kitchen window broke and can’t stay opened much - so we half open the door instead )

But trying to see what else I can do -because each time he cooks I’m annoyed and he’s annoyed with me telling him these things.

You would think my husband has selfish tendencies but his mom operates the same way - she cooks high flame multiple pots on at the same time with all windows closed - so that’s what he’s used to. But just trying to see what’s best for our family

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I know I have both genders for children. BUT being a Mam to my son is hard and frustrating, like I remind him everytime he goes to the toilet to point his Willy down because well he pisses all over the seat and even on the floor (he sits on the toilet been trying to get him to go like a "normal boy" But he won't even go for bush wees when we try and get him to but will hold it till he gets to a toilet)

My daughter is 19 months so I'll be potty training her in the next year and of course I don't know what that's gonna be like but yeah honestly being a Mam to a boy just isn't for the weak 😂

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