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This is not mommy related but I need some help

My husband cooks on many stoves at once on high flame - we have a small house with no exhaust fans - so it tends to result in lots of smoke in the house , the fire alarm going off many times and also me and our 2 year old som coughing and also our 2 year old old son’s room overheating as it’s directly above the kitchen

My husband likes to get in and out of thr kitchen as fast as possible - if you see him cooking - it looks like he’s in a rush (but that’s just how he operates , nobody is rushing him)

Anyways this is something I’ve spoken to him about multiple times and even in the current moment if we’re coughing he says he cant turn the stove down or turn off anything because certain foods (like the way he prepares salmon or steak has to be on a high flame. )

I’m just trying to figure out how to survive this because I dread most times when he prepares dinner (which is mostly Sundays ) - I’ve started planning to be away with friends that time but that’s not always sustainable - but trying to see what else I could do in the interim.

I will remind him to keep stoves as low as possible , or ask not to use so many burners at the same time

I’ll ask him to open windows (our kitchen window broke and can’t stay opened much - so we half open the door instead )

But trying to see what else I can do -because each time he cooks I’m annoyed and he’s annoyed with me telling him these things.

You would think my husband has selfish tendencies but his mom operates the same way - she cooks high flame multiple pots on at the same time with all windows closed - so that’s what he’s used to. But just trying to see what’s best for our family