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I feel like a failure as a mom. One side of my breasts is completely engorged and painful, the other is fine. My LO won’t feed on that side whatsoever. She won’t settle for more than five seconds and I can’t sleep. I’ve tried everything. I feel like such a failure. I just want 5 minutes of sleep and I can’t even get that. She’s only 4 days old and I have gotten a grand total of 0 minutes of sleep. I can’t eat because as soon as I take her off of me she’s crying. I can’t get myself water. My parents were helpful and now they both hate me. My partner doesn’t live with me, I live with my mom and dad and my parents won’t let them be over any more than a 3 hour time slot in the mornings. They won’t let me have anyone over to help. I don’t know what to do anymore except cry

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Me and my partner are first time parents I delivered our beautiful baby boy by emergency c section 2 days ago the first night in the hospital he was as good as gold didn't really cry even as the other babies on the ward screamed but when we brought him home yesterday he had the worst second night wouldn't stop screaming or feeding and my partner bless him thought he would try do it alone because of the fact I had a c section and was shattered

Now moving onto tonight he settled for about 2 hours after a bottle and then the screaming started again but it seems that he just wants to be held sometimes we've changed and fed him a few times but as soon as he gets out down he is screaming again

What I'm asking for is advice on if this lasts and how we break the only sleeps while being held if it could last or does that go over time and we should just try to hold him for the moment and once he's a little older he will be fine

Sorry if none of this makes any kind of sense I'm very tired

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Please, no judgement. I’m already overthinking. Okay, so I have a 4 year old boy with level 1 ASD, very high functioning. Today, at preschool pick up my husband saw that his teacher wrote us a note and another teacher (that isn’t his usual teacher) verbally told my husband that today my son said “I’m going to kill you” to one of his friends. The note said that she pulled him to the side and tried to probe at where he got that from or where/who told that to him, etc. Well, immediately when we found out, my husband talked to him on the car ride home and then I talked to him when he got home (I was finishing up with work) and just tried to probe a little more. My 4 year old said that another kid in his class was being mean to him and said those words and so he said it back. I told him that we don’t say that and there are other safer ways to express our feelings etc. Now, I’m immediately cutting back any screen time. He has like an hour or so screen time during the day, but now idk I’m going to be very strict about it. He only watches youtube kids (usually educational) and plays approved games. Has this happened to anyone else? What now? Therapy?

First night home with baby - need reassurance

Its our first night home with baby and I feel so on edge. She's barely 24hrs old, yet she keeps spitting up and coughing loads, passing a lot of wind and seems so uncomfortable. I don't know if this is normal? I can't seem to put her down because she just spits up no matter what. I don't understand how she can be spitting up so much when she's only drinking colostrum at the moment.

I've barely slept but my husband and I have decided to split the night so he can sleep for a couple hours then I'll get to go sleep for a couple hours because i literally cannot fall asleep if one of us isn't watching her and making sure she's okay

Idk this post doesn't have much point I'm just rambling and venting, I'm so exhausted. I guess I'm just scared she's not well or something. I have midwifes coming out to the house tomorrow anyway so I will voice any concerns then, but I just feel like it's going to be a really long night and I'm panicking over all these things

It's impossible to settle my baby

Second born and I'm struggling big time. He hardly eats and when he does he gets so unsettled he's hungry but doesn't take my breast always. I try winding him. Moving around with him etc he just so unsettled mainly at night. I don't think I've slept in weeks i know crying etc is normal but this is some next level stuff.
I honestly feel like such a failure and stressed that also disturbing neighbours.
I just don't think I can cope.
He was fine downstairs. Go upstairs and feed and he's screaming! For nearly 2 hours.
I'm not cut out for this.

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Is this a man thing or is it just my husband!!?

My husband does this thing where he will s*** all over something, then after he's tried it he'll think it's the best thing since sliced bread!!!

For example, I bought some teething powder for the baby and he went off on one about how all over the counter medication is 'woo' and ineffective, not proper medication and it's not likely to do anything. Now he's absolutely obsessed with it and gives it even when I don't think she even needs it!!!

It kind of drives me insane because I feel like I get such negativity and resistance for trying anything new!! Is this just a man thing?!

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