First night home with baby - need reassurance

Its our first night home with baby and I feel so on edge. She's barely 24hrs old, yet she keeps spitting up and coughing loads, passing a lot of wind and seems so uncomfortable. I don't know if this is normal? I can't seem to put her down because she just spits up no matter what. I don't understand how she can be spitting up so much when she's only drinking colostrum at the moment.

I've barely slept but my husband and I have decided to split the night so he can sleep for a couple hours then I'll get to go sleep for a couple hours because i literally cannot fall asleep if one of us isn't watching her and making sure she's okay

Idk this post doesn't have much point I'm just rambling and venting, I'm so exhausted. I guess I'm just scared she's not well or something. I have midwifes coming out to the house tomorrow anyway so I will voice any concerns then, but I just feel like it's going to be a really long night and I'm panicking over all these things

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Breathe, mama.

You'll learn in time even if it doesn't come naturally. Your letdown might be fast, you can try manually expressing some milk to see if you can release some pressure before you nurse to see if it helps.

Don't skip burping. Light gentle consistent pats to get gas out after each feed or between switching sides might help with spit up and gas. It will take time for things to develop and baby to keep everything down. It's going to be okay!

Definitely just see how the night goes and speak to the midwives tomorrow! They’ll probably be there long enough to watch and feed and see what happens too.
So normal to wanna be awake and watch them the first few days! I was so anxious when my partner watched baby cus he’d sleep and I’d just stay awake watching her🤣
Circle motions on back and gently moving baby in a circle work better to get rid of wind instead of patting if she’s bringing up milk too I’ve noticed xx

Sounds like she might have some reflux if she spits up a lot. Just mention it to the midwife tomorrow. Whatever your concerns always talk to your midwifes or health visitors. It's going to be OK. What you feel is very normal for a new mum! You got this! ❤️

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