Boyfriend saying im over reacting but im just being a mother

I think it's really easy to think there's no way he would fall off, and you know he's probably right in that it is unlikely, but all it would take would be one time, he decides to learn to roll and that's it! So personally I'd not want my baby on top of a kitchen table unattended but I don't necessarily think it's something that a man might think about - but now you've pointed it out along with the dangers, I would expect your boyfriend to not do it again!

My 4.5 month old nearly pushed herself backwards off our changing mat while I was there changing her the other day… she pushed backwards and her heels stuck and her clothes allowed her to slide. No you are absolutely not overreacting and him telling you you are is a massive red flag for me! 🚩

It’s all well and good him saying it won’t happen until it does and you end up in A&E with a baby with concussion or worse. A fall from that height at 4.5 months old could lead to a catastrophic head injury, especially as the fontanelle/ soft spot is nowhere near formed at this age!

Definitely don't leave baby unattended on a high surface. Thats why there's next to me cots amd bouncy chairs or even an empty draw. Once you get used to baby's natural temperature you stop worrying about too hot or too cold. Stick with the 1 more layer than yoy and on hot days just pop your hand on baby's chest or between shoulder blades to see if a layer needs removing. Men don't always understand risk in the same sense as us. Just find a horror story of a baby falling off a bed (there's loads out there) and send it to him. Or better yet get one of his mates to send it to him. Let him feel that anxiety and he might see thinga differently

My mum told me the other day that when I was a baby, she realised I had learned to roll when she looked away for one second and I thumped off the end of the bed. She was obviously horrified (and is now very anxious about my baby rolling off stuff!)
He really doesn't need to find out the hard way!

You’re definitely not over reacting and I’d express my concern and frustration also. I hope he soon realises that accidents can happen and any moment our babies are learning new skills every day. We have to be extra cautious and prevent what we can as parents. Sending you love!

He should but leave the baby unattended that could be dangerous. You are just showing care and concern for your new baby. There is nothing wrong with that.

You're right regarding leaving the baby unattended on high surfaces.
But there might be some anxiety is youre also worry the whole day about other things. For example I very rarely worry about temperature. I actually don't worry about it at all, I sometimes check when I'm wearing him but thats it.
So eventhough your boyfriend shouldn't leave him, he might also have a point regarding anxiety

You are in no way crazy!!! Even if my daughter isnt showing signs of a temperature but is a bit fussy I'll get the thermometer out. I'm always looking into things online to make sure the tiniest little details seem normal. I would not leave her that high up unattended!! We are 15 weeks here and she is trying to move. She kicks her self off the mat on the floor. Wriggles around and would fall off the sofa if she was left unattended. You are not mad you are a mumma who cares about her babybxx