What is my problem?

I’m struggling y’all. I had my son 9 months ago and PPA and ppd are kicking my butt and now ppr is coming in hot. The worst part is the rage is directed all to my husband. I feel such resentment towards him. Like all the time. He’s not a bad guy but when he can’t settle little man he just turns on reels to distract him. Which drives me crazy. He sits on his phone a lot playing games. I feel like I’m going crazy. But everything he does is just like come on guy. I want him to be more present. I want to have more help around the house and with dinners. I want him to understand that ppa and ppd are real and they suck. But he sucks at taking feedback. I try to express that I feel like we’ve lost our spark and he says I’m wrong… I’m desperately trying to feel lovey but honestly I just don’t. I just feel irritated by him. I feel our candle is burnt out and he just says it’s not true. I don’t know the purpose of this confusing rant but I needed to get it out.

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Teenagers living at home

Hey everybody just looking to settle a debate. I’m based in the UK and I’m a disabled single mother, my son recently turned 18 and he has a job has left school and is going to start college in the fall. I currently work 16.5 hours a week on minimum wage due to my disability. I no longer receive child benefit etc for him as he isn’t a child and I’ve asked for £100 digs a month to help towards food and bills.

My friend thinks this is unreasonable and he shouldn’t have to pay rent to live at home. I think I’m helping set him up for life and understanding responsibility but I don’t know!

What do you think?

Losing my mind here…can’t seem to get my toddler to start using the potty!!

So, I’ve been trying since March and initially she went a few times with a LOT of effort from me but then she refused to do a number 2…she kept holding it in until she became constipated. Anyway, she ended up getting quite ill so I stopped potty training her altogether, now I’m desperately trying again because she’s turning 3 and will be attending nursery in Sep. The nursery has said she should be potty trained so I’m panicking…I’ve started potty training her again but the same thing is happening!! She holds both pee & poo in and has now become constipated again!! She’s just so scared of doing anything in the toilet…God, what do I do? I feel like I’ve tried everything, being calm, distracting her, playing with her etc. taking her every half hour, sometimes even 10 mins. Nothing seems to be working! Any advice? 😭

Am I just overreacting

So I had my beautiful daughter two weeks ago, while pregnant my fiance seemed kinda excited not as much as i wished he would be but we would talk about what we thought she was gonna look like and all that fun stuff. Now after she’s born it seems he has little to no interest in spending time with her and I get she’s a newborn but I mean I just lay with her he doesn’t even do that. I grew up with a very present dad so I’m used to that and that could make me a little biased, but he comes home from work and hops on the game and on his days off he’s constantly on the game and I kinda feel I’m doing this without him, am I overreacting if not what do I do?

Worried as a sahm

The biggest worry I have about being a stay at home mom to 4 kids ages 1,5,8,9 and my husband being a truck driver over the road and not having much family support is what if something happens to me? What if the ambulance has to come and I have no one to get my kids? 😢

Is this considered "advanced"?

I know every child is different, but I'm just wondering if it would be considered particularly advanced that my just turned 3 year old (was 3 in May) can write his name unprompted from memory, as well as writing "mum" and "dad" from memory. We can dictate any letter of the alphabet to form a word and he could write it out in eligible handwriting. He can also write 1-20 in order from memory. We haven't pushed numbers and letters on him, he seems to just have a particular interest in them. Even a year ago he knew all the alphabet letters and could recognise and recite each one individually from signs or books etc. Blows my mind!

Does it ever get easier?

Me and my husband have been together for 13 years. We have been going through a rough patch for a few years now. I have struggled with my weight my entire life and he knows that. I have been trying to lose weight and was succeeding. I put on a lot of weight during covid and lost around 5 stone. I told my husband i lost more than i had. We agreed to have a baby, I was not at goal weight which he wanted me to be at before he would consider having a baby even the weight I told him I was wasn't my goal weight but during pregnancy I told him the truth and he has held it against me ever since. Immediately he wanted me to have an abortion as he no longer trusted me because I lied about my weight.

He wants me to change and as much as I try I cannot be the person he wants me to be. He says I have issues with attention to detail, strategic and critical thinking, consistency. He says i am chaotic and unorganised. He says I have memory issues and lack cognitive and executive function.

I have zero help around the house, I do all the cooking and cleaning and now I look after my little one 24/7.

He thinks I have adhd which i am on the waiting list for an assessment. I personally dont think I have it but there is no harm getting an assessment to check right?

I forget things like any other normal mother would. I keep saying I have too much to do but if I ask him to take over tasks it gives me more work as I have to write instructions on how to do the simplest of things like maintaining the dishwasher....

He is vile to me, he tells me I am useless, that i cant do anything right. He also thinks my LO is a fussy child. She sleeps through the night and is pretty good with her naps during the day. I dont think she is that fussy at all.

I am at my wits end... does it ever get easier? My LO is 9 months old, will it get better when I go back to work or shall I just rip off the band aid and end my marriage now?

I dont know what i want from writing this... maybe just the chance to vent or someone to tell me everything will get better!