Teenagers living at home
Hey everybody just looking to settle a debate. I’m based in the UK and I’m a disabled single mother, my son recently turned 18 and he has a job has left school and is going to start college in the fall. I currently work 16.5 hours a week on minimum wage due to my disability. I no longer receive child benefit etc for him as he isn’t a child and I’ve asked for £100 digs a month to help towards food and bills.
My friend thinks this is unreasonable and he shouldn’t have to pay rent to live at home. I think I’m helping set him up for life and understanding responsibility but I don’t know!
What do you think?
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£100/month is more than fair. You could even get away with charging more but if this is adequate enough to help you out then I would stick with it.
Enough to teach responsibility whilst allowing him to save well and have some for pleasure. X
I always think that the £100 a month is fair to ask for, its what your missing from child benefit.
The parents that basically ask them to foot the bill for everything though are taking the piss.
I think this is too little ☺️. But fair for now. It should be bumped up as he gets older/earns more.
Even if I didn't need the money I would still charge rent to my working children. They need to learn some responsibility. I'd probably put the money in a savings account and give it back eventually
100 sounds cheap compared to what they’d be paying for a place to live entirely on their own. 🤷♀️
I wouldn’t charge him. He’s leaving for school soon. I doubt he makes much l
I’m in the US and have many adult kids. Our rules are. If you are in school full time you do not have to pay rent. If you are not in school full time you need to have a full time job and pay $400 a month. Plus all your own bills (which they’ve been paying anyways)
I don’t see anything wrong with it, infact he should offer without you having to ask. Especially in your position.
Once I turned 18 I paid £300 of the rent! I worked full time and earned well. Mum cooked for me and did my laundry still so it was only fair!
I wouldn’t with mine unless they were working full time and not in college however your situation is slightly different.
The rent you charge should depend on:
* the amount he is paid
* whether he already pays any household bills
* whether he buys his own food
* whether he does any housework, cooking, gardening etc
At 18 he is an adult and therefore, should be taught that if you earn, you need to pay your way. I don’t understand why people think charging their adult, working children to live at home is wrong. It’s setting them up for a fairytale and that everything in life is free. Even if you didn’t need the money, the lesson is invaluable. You are doing the right thing.
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