Children and screens 🤯
My 3yo is strictly a TV kid, he hasn't ever used a tablet or ipad, phone etc.
We let him have TV but only certain programs, however we don't restrict when he has access to it unless it's mealtimes or near bedtime.
That being said, he actually has very little interest in the TV, only watches a program for 5 minutes, he'd rather play with his toys. He loves toys from TV shows, for example he has all the Paw Patrol figurines, but he's only actually watched a handful of episodes.
We were cuddling and I was showing him photos on my phone from a day out we had the other weekend, which then ended up us looking through all my photos. I let him hold the phone and scroll through them himself and when I tried to take it off him he had the biggest tantrum I've ever seen him have.
He then kept trying to snatch my phone off me which is so unlike him, its like he turned into a different child.
I'm hoping it's just because it was a new thing and not because it was a screen necessarily, but it's definitely made me feel better about my decision to limit his screentime overall. I've given him new things in the past that I've taken away and he's never reacted that way.
How does your child react to screens? I'm curious if you limit your children's screentime, do they act differently when they have access to it?
Fomo partners
My (birth mother and exclusively BF) year’s maternity leave is coming to an end and throughout it, my wife’s had fomo when I’ve had plans. For example, going to baby classes, meeting up for coffee, baby cinema, soft play dates. She said “I’m going to get pregnant so I can have a year off”. I think she thinks I’m living my best life and I’m having so much fun. It’s not been all bad but it has also been hard but I feel she doesn’t think it’s equally as hard as her year.
Just wondering if your partners have had similar mindsets and how you’ve coped with that?
I feel like I’m wasting my time..
I barely started to go back into the workforce after being a stay at home mom after 11 years. I lost myself and even til this day I’m still am. My husband thinks I should know what I like that’s fun for me but I don’t even know yet. I barely got to have a vacation for a month in July. I noticed I’ve found something like playing video games but then I find it especially around me that makes me feel like I’m wasting time or things I have to do. So meanwhile vacation, I have my kids at home as well. So they’ll here and there but trying not to complain. I feel bad because I do feel like I’m complaining about them not giving me time to play but I shouldn’t. Then my husband just comes home from work from a 6:30-2:30 m-f shift to an hour and half time for himself while I’m trying to get things done or dinner started. After he’s done with the hour and a hall to himself, he’ll just go straight to the couch and watch that tv. He thinks there’s no need to help clean because we have the kids there. Which I mean I’m sure I want my kids to help around the house but I feel like it shouldn’t just be the kids doing all the cleaning…my husband thinks I’m too sensitive and doesn’t like how I can’t more like “hey do you need a hug” or “honey, let’s take a walk”..my whole life I’ve been an introvert, nervous, shy person. He’s the total opposite of me. He likes to party and especially with wanting people over and just does whatever he wants without minding my feelings about things. He blamed me for ruining his visit when I was a stay at home mom with 3 kids at the time. I was so overwhelmed with 3 kids and an elderly to watch and take care of. Him and his mom didnt verify with me how she wasn’t staying at our place for her whole visit. So my husband thought I was too over dramatic for not being there for his grandma…he has adhd and uses that for his every reason of not doing things and drinks just to calm his nerves and adhd. That’s been a massive issue with us..
Am I just not trying enough to be the right person for him?
