should respect be earned?

If the husband is the only one working, does that automatically mean the wife, even if the husband is disrespectful towards her, should cater to him?

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They should both respect each other and cater to each other. If the balance is off, then it’s not a good situation for anyone

Respect should be earned, yes. But not in an authoritative manner. More like, “oh, he did this so I have respect for him because that was brave!”. But basic decency & kindness toward others should be a given.

I think authoritative respect is appropriate in a workplace environment. Not in a home or relationship. If the man is standing over the woman to make her feel smaller then he’s a POS

Absolutely not, you’re the only reason he can work, to quote some really smart women: “men are the real gold diggers” because they profit off your unpaid labour

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Would this piss you off?

I’m about to lose my shit.

Toddler was at nursery today, I’m 27 weeks pregnant and nesting like crazy. I’ve spent all day on my hands and knees deep cleaning the kitchen. Barely had a minute to sit down, partner walks in, starts making dinner and gets his grubby, sauce covered hands all over the fridge door 😤

Istg there is no respect in keeping this house clean, I’ve told him how much I cleaned today, the least he could do is grab the goddam door handle 😡

Rant over

Advice about having two babies close together?

I am 6 months pp and my husband is already talking about having another baby. I’m not sure I am ready but he is trying to convince me. He says that after having another baby, we can be done and I can get a hysterectomy if I want. He really wants to try for a boy. His argument is that while it will be hard having two under 2, in the long run it will all work out. We are still in our early 30s so time isn’t of the essence but we are also not getting younger. Any advice about having two under two or about this situation?

For some context I have a daughter (5 yo) from my previous marriage, my now husband has been in her life for a few years and he is the only father figure she knows. He absolutely treats her like his own. He has this weird thing about not wanting his namesake to die out.

Teaching a toddler

How do you keep calm teaching children? Like fucking honestly. I thought I was gonna be patient but I’m infuriated everytime. What do I do.

Gave up Moms on call

Anyone try moms on call and completely give up? This is no hate to it either! Every baby is different and they adapt to things at their own pace. But I tried with my 3 month old for about a month (started at 2 months old) and I just got so tired of it. I felt like I was watching the clock all day and it was consuming me. I legit felt crazy like every day was exactly the same and then I would freak out if he was off his schedule. I gave up and started going based off his cues and I feel so much better. My whole goal was for him to sleep more at night at he literally sleeps the same lol. Just curious if anyone else had a similar experience

Can a 3 year old eat protein bars?

He ate some of mine and absolutely loved it but I don’t know if a 3 year old should have them

Heartbroken

I broke my arm last night. I discharged myself, but they gave me ketemine so I can’t breast feed for 12 hours. And then in the next day or so they said I’ll need surgery which I’m not allowed to feed for 24-48 hours after 😭
I’m so heartbroken. When I came home early morning at 2 my son woke up at 3.. he keeps teaching for me and wanting a feed. This is the wurst feeling ever.i feel like I’m letting him down.