I feel like I’m wasting my time..

I barely started to go back into the workforce after being a stay at home mom after 11 years. I lost myself and even til this day I’m still am. My husband thinks I should know what I like that’s fun for me but I don’t even know yet. I barely got to have a vacation for a month in July. I noticed I’ve found something like playing video games but then I find it especially around me that makes me feel like I’m wasting time or things I have to do. So meanwhile vacation, I have my kids at home as well. So they’ll here and there but trying not to complain. I feel bad because I do feel like I’m complaining about them not giving me time to play but I shouldn’t. Then my husband just comes home from work from a 6:30-2:30 m-f shift to an hour and half time for himself while I’m trying to get things done or dinner started. After he’s done with the hour and a hall to himself, he’ll just go straight to the couch and watch that tv. He thinks there’s no need to help clean because we have the kids there. Which I mean I’m sure I want my kids to help around the house but I feel like it shouldn’t just be the kids doing all the cleaning…my husband thinks I’m too sensitive and doesn’t like how I can’t more like “hey do you need a hug” or “honey, let’s take a walk”..my whole life I’ve been an introvert, nervous, shy person. He’s the total opposite of me. He likes to party and especially with wanting people over and just does whatever he wants without minding my feelings about things. He blamed me for ruining his visit when I was a stay at home mom with 3 kids at the time. I was so overwhelmed with 3 kids and an elderly to watch and take care of. Him and his mom didnt verify with me how she wasn’t staying at our place for her whole visit. So my husband thought I was too over dramatic for not being there for his grandma…he has adhd and uses that for his every reason of not doing things and drinks just to calm his nerves and adhd. That’s been a massive issue with us..

Am I just not trying enough to be the right person for him?

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Nursery - when do you start looking?

Hey everyone,

I am super early at 5+1 and live in Bristol and a few people have mentioned nurseries and to basically start booking your place the second you find out you’re pregnant.. is this true? Has anyone started sorting out their nursery place? People have said there are no spaces and I don’t know if it’s a Bristol thing or a UK thing. I’m self employed and have no idea how this is going to work as don’t know how much time I’m going to have off as it’s depends on how much I can save between now and march?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Thank you x

Heartbroken

I broke my arm last night. I discharged myself, but they gave me ketemine so I can’t breast feed for 12 hours. And then in the next day or so they said I’ll need surgery which I’m not allowed to feed for 24-48 hours after 😭
I’m so heartbroken. When I came home early morning at 2 my son woke up at 3.. he keeps teaching for me and wanting a feed. This is the wurst feeling ever.i feel like I’m letting him down.

Gave up Moms on call

Anyone try moms on call and completely give up? This is no hate to it either! Every baby is different and they adapt to things at their own pace. But I tried with my 3 month old for about a month (started at 2 months old) and I just got so tired of it. I felt like I was watching the clock all day and it was consuming me. I legit felt crazy like every day was exactly the same and then I would freak out if he was off his schedule. I gave up and started going based off his cues and I feel so much better. My whole goal was for him to sleep more at night at he literally sleeps the same lol. Just curious if anyone else had a similar experience

Advice about having two babies close together?

I am 6 months pp and my husband is already talking about having another baby. I’m not sure I am ready but he is trying to convince me. He says that after having another baby, we can be done and I can get a hysterectomy if I want. He really wants to try for a boy. His argument is that while it will be hard having two under 2, in the long run it will all work out. We are still in our early 30s so time isn’t of the essence but we are also not getting younger. Any advice about having two under two or about this situation?

For some context I have a daughter (5 yo) from my previous marriage, my now husband has been in her life for a few years and he is the only father figure she knows. He absolutely treats her like his own. He has this weird thing about not wanting his namesake to die out.

Can a 3 year old eat protein bars?

He ate some of mine and absolutely loved it but I don’t know if a 3 year old should have them

Is this cheating?

I fantasize being with a woman or having threesomes with my fiancé and another woman. He says he’d be down, but when the time comes he might not last long so I think that’s a big reason why he’s kinds avoiding the idea. But at the same time idk and personally. I want a best friend/ fwb mom friend. Is this wrong!?’? It’s been over a year since he’s givin me head (I give him head all the time) same old excuse he’s not into it. I drink plenty of water. I have needs too. He fucks me good. I just have neeedsss.