Advice needed

Congratulations mama! It’s only day two so it’s hard to say what he’ll be like in the coming days and weeks. Bear in mind that newborns physically can’t form the concept of routine i.e. if he gets held to sleep tonight, he won’t become accustomed to it and you’re not creating a bad habit. That part of their brain doesn’t develop until a few months in. Right now he’s just craving the warmth and comfort of being inside of you, he doesn’t know any better. Spend this time keeping him close both day and night, try to put him down occasionally to see if he’ll stay down. If you guys have any external support family etc, this would be the time to rely on them so you can catch up on some sleep. I suggest putting a piece of your clothing or something that smells like you in the cot with him. Try swaddling (look up a video to see how to swaddle properly).If he persists for the next weeks to not want to be put down, look up Safe Sleep 7 and advice on safe co sleeping. Good luck mum, it gets easier

My little one was/is exactly like this, it's tough but it does get better. Ive ended up doing co-sleeping and then at 5/6 weeks she's starting to let us put her down, some days are better than others, but there's signs of progress compared to a few weeks ago.
Every newborn is different and what works for one won't necessarily work for another, you'll figure out what works for your family.

Baby is used to being in a warm cosy environment in your womb, can hear your heartbeat etc, so it's a lot to expect them to settle in a cot which is a complete change for them, it's natural that they want to be close to you (and at this stage they don't actually realise that you and they are separate people)

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Our little one needed to be held to sleep for the first week. We took it in turns to hold her for hours over night 😅 by week 2 she was sleeping in her next to me in a sleep sack so it does get better!
They don’t know night and day for a while so try to get enough rest over a 24 hour period, instead of just at night

Try to enjoy the cuddles and remember each phase ends quickly at this age!

Congrats
You guys are doing amazing.
The first few weeks are rough newborns know no routine or day or night and infanct still think they are inside you. One thing i swear really helped my girl figure out day from night and that night time was for sleep as leaving my curtians open all the time in the day it was light at night it was dark on natural hours from about week 3 she has slept at night 12 hours with 1 feed in the middle.
Also babies are pretty much designed to live on you for the first 3 months so if your baby doesnt want to be put down your probably doing it right just remember its better to prepare a safe co sleeping space than have and unplanned nap with them on you due to exhaustion. 💓 things will get easier you will sleep again normally xx

This is thee hard bit! He doesn't physiologically know that he is separate to you yet, so being out down will feel scary. He just needs that closeness to the only thing he really recognises, his mama and secondly daddy.
Try lots of skin to skin to reassure him. Promise it doesn't last forever!

This is very normal for a newborn. It helps to remember that they have no concept of night/day, routine, time so will wake to meet their needs. It a a very important instinctual/biological survival response for a young baby to wake frequently. It tends to be 2 hourly. Your baby also hasn't registered that they are a separate person to you and it takes around 3 months before they even start to grasp this concept so needing close proximity to you or being held by you is a again their safety instinct. It can be hard and tiring but it doesn't last forever. They change and grow rapidly and things change all the time. They don't really start to pick up routines etc until a little later around 4 months. So although they might be dry, comfortable and fed your baby has comfort, safety and emotional needs that also need to be met.

The first two weeks and first 30 days are brutal for this but it will settle. You can't spoil the baby, don't worry. It's amazing your partner wants to help figure out a way that works and gets through, it definitely doesn't last forever x

Congrats!!!

Sleep like a baby.. I never understood that term.
My daughter slept on top of me, me sitting upright propped with pillows from day to up until 7 months.
I could never put her down. The moment I did, she screamed.
So to get some sense of sleep, i sat upright for 7 months.

I also used to track her and I remember by around 13 months to 3 years she would wake up between 15 to 25 times per night and wont self setllte. Shed be fine fast asleep from 7pm to 11pm and then awake pretty much every 30mins from 11pm to 7am.
For years!
Now she is 4 and wakes between 2 to 3 times a night.

But the worst was when she was a baby.


Your son is 2 days old.
You WILL be sleep deprived for months.
How much, i dont know and when it will stop, i dont know.

For the 1st few weeks, work it together and then, find a rhythm and routine that works for both of you.


Its hard work, i wont lie. But you get used to it and then it finally gets better.

Good luck x