What now?

Please, no judgement. I’m already overthinking. Okay, so I have a 4 year old boy with level 1 ASD, very high functioning. Today, at preschool pick up my husband saw that his teacher wrote us a note and another teacher (that isn’t his usual teacher) verbally told my husband that today my son said “I’m going to kill you” to one of his friends. The note said that she pulled him to the side and tried to probe at where he got that from or where/who told that to him, etc. Well, immediately when we found out, my husband talked to him on the car ride home and then I talked to him when he got home (I was finishing up with work) and just tried to probe a little more. My 4 year old said that another kid in his class was being mean to him and said those words and so he said it back. I told him that we don’t say that and there are other safer ways to express our feelings etc. Now, I’m immediately cutting back any screen time. He has like an hour or so screen time during the day, but now idk I’m going to be very strict about it. He only watches youtube kids (usually educational) and plays approved games. Has this happened to anyone else? What now? Therapy?

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Do you agree? Unpopular opinion…Men can change.

Me and my husband have been together and over the last 3 years we hated each other. He was a horrible husband and only a fun dad. I was doing ALL the work. And we barely had sex I felt like I was BEGGING him, it was pathetic. I also am the breadwinner. I was tired of doing everything. I told him all the time I don’t feel like you love me or want me and that hurts the worst. I asked for a separation on Jan 28th 2026. I finally realized he does love me when that happened…he got a reality check when people started congratulating me. Since then he took over giving all 3 kids a bath, cooks 3 nights a week. Is taking our 3 and 4 year old to t ball and practicing with them everyday after daycare. Being a very active husband and father. We have been having sex consistently again and last night he told me I have been really sexy to him lately. I can’t tell you how good that felt. Do you think men can change?

Difficult 1 year old

So I know it’s fairly normal developmental behaviour but I’m struggling. My son was a dream of a baby but since he turned 1 one (he’s 20 months), life has just become so hard. It feels like a fight every few minutes. To get in the pram, in the car seat, for snacks, to go outside when he can’t, to change his nappy, to get him dressed, to get to things he shouldn’t. And I’m pretty chill. But it’s constant screaming and tears and thrashing and I’m finding it so hard, especially physically on my body as he’s a big boy. Me and my partner are fortunately able to keep pretty measured even when we went to scream ourselves and we are talking him through things but he hasn’t really started communicating yet. I’m not sure what else we can do, I know it will end one day but it’s making life miserable, we’re struggling to enjoy him which makes me sad and we’re struggling to do anything that we used to do because of the fear of it.

Preschooler told teachers I was not”the greatest mom” and never played with her or gave her kisses when asked Mother’s Day questions. Would you be upset too?

We play for hours everyday. I’m home with her and she said dad is best. I cried so much. Why would the teacher tell me that….

Am I being childish

So me & my partner went shopping ( I paid as usual 🙄)
He puts 4 multi packs of crisp in the trolly to keep in his car for work & I put 3 in for the household mainly my kids

Last night in his pack up he made was crisp from the household but my point is your WORK crisp are in ur car for soley you so then also taking them from the household is selfish

Am I being stupid it’s bugged me all day

The ‘magical 18months’

So all I’ve heard since the day I had him was, you’ll want another when you get to the 18 month mark.

The 18month mark is the best, they’re calmer and happier.

He’s been a hard baby, prem, constantly cried and now he’s a hard toddler and I don’t expect parenting to be easy, but I expected it to be easier by now.

The tantrums are rotting my brain, the constant whinging from not getting what he wants, the brutal throwing of toys and/or himself.

I feel battered, mentally and physically. Is there hope?

Boyfriend saying im over reacting but im just being a mother

I am so sick of my boyfriend being so relaxed about things. He is fine to leave our baby unattended on the changing mat on the kitchen table (our 4.5 month old who is so wriggly and constantly kicking!) I said he should not be left unattended on things in high, he says there’s no way he’d fall off. I said, he could do, but also why don’t we just be cautious just in case !? He said I am over anxious because I also worry about his temperature if he’s too hot or too cold a lot of the time too. Of course I am, I am a mother who is just looking out for my baby ! He makes me feel as if I’m going crazy. I need to know - am I really over reacting or would you as a mother also not want to leave your baby on top of a kitchen table unattended?