Basic hygiene
Im currently 22 weeks pregnant with my little boy and my partner has a 7 year old non verbal autistic boy who he shares 50/50 with. I can appreciate he is still in nappies with him being SEN. However im having trouble wrapping my head round the hygene issue. He does not brush his teeth, wash his hands, shower or bathe here (his mam bathes him at hers). But he also shoves his hands down his nappy then touches furniture, wiping his nose on things etc. My main concern is my baby having zero immune system. I believe both his mam and dad could be doing more with this. As at the moment I dont want him near my baby until this is under control. Am I unreasonable?
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No that is totally reasonable, his dad could still wash his hands and shower him if he’s got him 50% of the time then should definitely be doing more about it, maybe talk to your partner about it and explain your worried for the baby
My daughter is Autistic and she’s no wear near that, she’s very smart and knows how to brush her teeth and she loves showers it’s up to us as the parents to teach them they can be taught and know right from wrong. It’s not poor baby boys fault he should be taught way more than what he is . Stay strong and try to support & show his dad he needs to do more, there’s definitely nothing wrong with you showing concern for his son whatsoever girl. You’re showing you care and he should see and appreciate that. No disrespect but I feel like what his dad is doing is laziness while his son is in his care he should be taking responsibility into his own hands . Everything he does for himself he should do for his son. Our children come first , you got this 💯
My son is autistic and doesn’t like his teeth brushed but it’s a sensory thing that he can’t help, I have to pin him down. It’s obviously a spectrum and your partners son seems completely different to my son.
My son allows things at his dad’s house that he won’t allow here like having medicine he needs, again I have to pin him down but it’s getting harder as he gets older.
However, unfortunately this is the life you signed up for and I think it’s harsh to punish your partner and his son for something they can’t control. I would personally never be with someone who has autistic children because I’ve experienced it first hand and life is generally just harder, I would just never ever choose that.
Autistic children thrive on routine and for you to want to disrupt his routine because you wanted a baby is harsh on him I think as he obviously had these issues before you came along. I’m just struggling to understand why you thought a baby was a good idea if you had these feelings 😫
This is completely reasonable. I think hand wiping should be done often and maybe he needs a layer of clothes covering him so he can’t get into his pants stood up.
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