Missing out

I guess I’m different. Everyone my age likes to point out that I’m missing out on my partying /clubbing years by being a mom, except going out to party or club has NEVER been my idea of fun. I’d rather go out and play paintball or bowling, rock climbing, picnics, etc. or stay in and drink at home lol. Its just I’m fine with “missing out” on the club scene so why does it bother everyone else.

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Trust me you're not missing on anything. I've never understood the club scene. Bars r fun but I hate going places where I have to shout to be heard. It's so annoying lol

Not missing out on anything at all. Your better off really. I had my times at the club in my late teens but I got tired of it pretty quick. One night I looked around at all these guys just gawking at the women on the dance floor and it grossed me the F out. I was pretty done with that life then. I really just like to dance to loud music but I can do that at home or with friends at home, not around a bunch of dogs

I'm 36, didn't become a mom until 34, and still never went out clubbing or partying in my 20's, it was never for me and I still have no regrets about it

I definitely feel like I’m missing out on my 20s 🤷🏾‍♀️. I had my baby the year I turned 20. So my entire 20’s will be me raising a kid and it’s depressing. I wanted to go to college and live on campus but I graduated in 2020 so Covid shut that down 😂 so I took a gap year and got pregnant 🙃.

Idk maybe it’s the fact that my husband and I have a great support system & the kids are with their grandparents every weekend unless we have something planned as a family but I honestly feel like I’m not missing anything, during the week we both work and spend time with the kids and during the weekend we either make plans together like date nights, or as a family with the kids (fairs and etc) or separately with our friends. And we still go on trips whether it be just us or as a family with our kids. The only thing I think I’m missing out on is a nap whenever I want it lol I really just don’t enjoy being in a club all the time.

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Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Scan needed at 33 weeks

Hi ladies! I just had a midwife appointment (I am 33+5)..the midwife was different to my usual midwife. She's requested I have a scan within 72 hours as she said baby is measuring a little small, however, she did say that it's likely nothing to worry about and it's probably just her measuring me a bit different to my usual midwife. Has anyone else had this? Am a bit worried although babys heartbeat and movements are completely fine.